Husband

[Userleah]

So I did the weekly food shop this morning and when I finished I asked hubby if he wanted a sandwich. I was driving past the bakery as he didn’t answer I didn’t stop and assumed he’d gotten something for his lunch. Anyone 30 mins later I’ve put all the shopping away he texts back and says yes! Anyway I put eggs on and took out th sliced bread he comes in and starts having a go at me for not buying proper bread ie baguette!!!! He wouldn’t be quiet about it honestly I’m so sick of his outbursts. I’m working full time, doing all the housework and childcare I’m knackered and don’t need this as well

What did you say to him?

I would assume you explained the situation, his attitude, your feelings, probably using some short, Anglo Saxon words and leaving him fully chastised.

LTB and not because he got pissed off over a sandwich. Why do you do everything?

I do everything because otherwise it wouldn’t get done! He works long hours isn’t home till between 7.40 and 10pmso everything is my responsibility . He never lets me know what time he’ll be home. I’m working, looking after children, taking them to their various appointments laundry, cooking,cleaning, bathing my youngest homework etc . I feel I have no moral support and his shouting about stupid things is really getting me down.

You’re doing absolutely everything by yourself. You could be doing absolutely everything by yourself minus the being shouted at if you leave him. You deserve better.

What does he bring to your life?

Why does he think it's OK to speak to you like that? Why is the type of bread so very imporant to him that he has an outburst? If the type of bread is so very important to him (!) then why didn't he ask you for it before you went shopping?

Does he think you're a mind-reader? Staff? Someone to let his stress out on??

Userleah

re your comment:-
"I do everything because otherwise it wouldn’t get done!"

One of those men eh?. One of those who thinks that housework, childcare and life admin is for their woman aka possession/serf/house elf/slave to do because they're too important to actually do anything like that.

What is the point of him and what is the point of you and he being together at all now?. What are you getting from this relationship?. The man is not even adult enough to reply to your text message in a timely manner; what was he doing in those 30 minutes?. His outbursts also come across as you being verbally and emotionally berated and or otherwise abused by him. He is treating you as someone who is beneath contempt. Is this really the relationship model you want to be showing your children?. No. What do you want to teach them about relationships and what are they learning here?.

Thanks for all the replies! Last night he had a go because I was sitting on the couch and he told me to move so he could sit there!!!!!!! Well I didn’t budge an inch! It’s the whole demanding thing I’ve got a problem with

He sounds ridiculous. Such a bully. Do your kids copy him?

@BrilloSolar

What does he bring to your life?

Anxiety probably

He sounds like a prize prick !

I'd be telling him, in no uncertain terms, that I am NOT his bloody servant, nor is HE in ANY way, shape or form, somehow more 'entitled' to get to sit where HE bloody wants either !!

He's either got to bloody well treat you with equal respect and care, or he'll find out just how much his life will SUCK when you 'withdraw your labour' and refuse to do anything for him at ALL !!

@Userleah

Thanks for all the replies! Last night he had a go because I was sitting on the couch and he told me to move so he could sit there!!!!!!! Well I didn’t budge an inch! It’s the whole demanding thing I’ve got a problem with

He said what?? I’d have laid him out there and then. Sounds like he has no respect for you. Do you really want to spend another 10/20/30 years with this man?

@Userleah

Thanks for all the replies! Last night he had a go because I was sitting on the couch and he told me to move so he could sit there!!!!!!! Well I didn’t budge an inch! It’s the whole demanding thing I’ve got a problem with

Wot ? I think he needs to be told to take a flying Fuck

I have 3 children, a dog work 36 hours a week and do everything in the house, food shop and all the childcare. I’m starting to feel depressed about it tbh as I never get help from my husband. I’ve spoken to him multiple times about it and he keeps saying he’ll help more and never does. I feel like everything is on me and I feel so alone. He works long hours and isn’t home much and to top it off is underpaid for the hours he puts in. Things need to change but I don’t know how. We’ve been through the usual chore chart that doesn’t work. I’ve told him how it’s all getting too much for me to do alone.