Hi all,
I don’t know how to write this without feeling weird about asking for your opinions. I don’t want advice as such as I don’t like confrontation, I just wear a smile on my face so that my Mum can’t see I am upset with how she’s regularly making me feel small.
What it is, is my Mum who I’m close with and I do a lot for, is constantly (and I mean constantly) paying my sister compliments but to ME - to which I agree with whatever she has to say. I’m not the insecure type nor jealous. This is about how my Mum is making me feel, NOT my sister. I love my sister and she is lovely woman.
It struck a nerve today because my Mum said to me “I hope she (my sister) doesn’t lose anymore weight.” When she knows I am under weight due to my anxiety and depression and working all the time and being a single Mum, ohh and studying. Now my sister is a healthy size 12, so if she did want to, she still would look as fab if she did lose anymore. But as a slimmer person myself, I just thought it was a bit insensitive of my Mum to say that?! If the shoe was on the other foot and she was to say to my sister “I hope she (me) doesn’t gain anymore weight.” Knowing my sister is a couple of sizes bigger than me.
Am I wrong for feeling upset and most of all does the above make sense in what I am trying to get across?
Thanks x