Does anyone else find this after a long term relationship ends

[Sweetielou]

So I’ve posted on her before after i separated from my husband after 25 years . I’m getting there and feeling better but after so many years together you have a lot of memories and songs I hear , places I go and what I watch all remind me of him and it’s so bloody annoying. How can you get someone out of your head when so many thinks reminds me of him .,

What worked for me was going abroad for a couple of weeks. But equally going somewhere else in the UK might work. Preferably with friends or people you can do stuff with. Possibly a sport or a course of some sort.

Not as long term as you, but for me the associations faded over time. It gets easier and you eventually just enjoy the things without the sad feelings attached.

This drove me mad when I broke up with an ex with whom I'd been together for years.

It just took time, no easy answer I'm afraid! Threw myself into new activities and new friendships which helped.

Yes it takes to time to make new associations with these things.

It's not really about stopping the reminders reminding you of him, it's more about not being bothered when they do. He won't stop coming into your head for a long time, so getting frustrated when he does isn't good for you. Work on this, rather than on 'not being reminded of him'

I echo what others have said and am talking to myself too as I'm a new widow- it's about creating new memories and accepting that you are starting to become a new you. Painful.

I recently became single after 23 years and it is all very strange and hard. But for the best. Good luck OP.

Places, people, music can all have emotional impacts on our lives. If you've ever worked in customer service and had a bad experience or been shouted at by your parents I'm sure you will remember it even 40 years later.

The key is to deal with these emotions in a logical way. The sadness is the missing the happy time you had in a location. Or hearing a song. Hard to change that. Particularly given how long you were together.

You could just avoid these places or songs or just keep going and eventually you will learn to deal with it.