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suffering from ante natal depression and partners left me 29 weeks

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banahlanaba · 03/03/2022 19:06

I'm 29 weeks pregnant currently with my third baby. I've had the most horrible pregnancy with hyperemisis that has been never ending, PGP and other ongoing health problems. I have hated every part of this pregnancy, it has been extremely tough, we had just moved back to my partners home town before we started trying for a baby, where I am alone and isolated. the health conditions have meant that I am even more isolated.
He was the perfect partner before this pregnancy and I absolutely adored him and he adored me and we've been so excited about this baby. the start of the pregnancy he was fairly supportive, but this just kept dropping and dropping. He's not once tried to understand what I'm going through, he's never been to the emergency hospital trips I've had to go to completely alone.
Then, last Thursday it all came to blow and my depression hit a head and i had a complete breakdown. not once has he even attempted to get me help that I need (I have but felt i really needed his backing), he ended up just phoning the police and told me I was trying to murder his baby. There wasn't an ounce of compassion towards me and my vulnerable and desperate state, at one point he called me disgusting.
I came home later that night after a mental health assessment and being referred to help to find him gone, he had up and left me.
so now I'm trying to figure out my way around my crumbling mental health and the fact that someone i loved so much and would do anything for could do something like this when I'm at my worst point in my life.
I just can't get my head around it.

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chattycaterpillar · 03/03/2022 19:08

So, so sorry you are going through this OP, it sounds awful.

Did the staff who did the MHA Assessment offer to refer you to a community mental health team ?

How old are the other two children with you ?

chattycaterpillar · 03/03/2022 19:11

PANDA's also have a free helpline open to 10.00pm to help people living with prenatal/ antenatal depression.

You may possibly want to contact them for some emergency support.

pandasfoundation.org.uk/what-is-pnd/pre-natal-depression/

banahlanaba · 03/03/2022 19:12

Yes they did, It's all starting to come through but they phoned me today and said it could be a couple of weeks. So in the meantime I'm dealing with all of this alone with no one here to support me.

I have a nine year old who is with my parents during the week (special educational needs) and a four year old who is with me all the time who i now have no support with

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banahlanaba · 03/03/2022 19:13

thank you, I think I will give them a call. It's the lonely nights I'm struggling the most when I don't have any distractions

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chattycaterpillar · 03/03/2022 19:18

Bless you, give them a call and post if you need to chat. It's good they are open in the evenings, as I think that's when a lot of people may need support.

Home Start are volunteers who provide befriending/ support/ companionship for families with children under 5 who are isolated/ don't know many people in the area etc.

As you have a four year old, you should qualify.

You may want to contact them via:

www.home-start.org.uk/

Also, if the sickness is still an issue, this charity provide peer-to-peer support which may also give you someone to chat to in the evenings:

www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/get-help/

Have you been prescribed any antidepressant medication at all and is that something you would discuss with your GP?

Also, I'm not sure if it is possible, but would you and the 4 year old be able to stay with your parents for a few weeks for some respite ?

chattycaterpillar · 04/03/2022 14:24

How are you doing today @banahlanaba ?

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