This is a good enough reason to split

[JunoLunar]

Told my dp I wanted to split after 20 years and two children.
He goes from acceptance to wanting a concrete reason.
I feel like he brings nothing to the table.
Conversation is all on his terms about his interests.
I have to initiate every day trip, holiday, switch of energy suppliers, job change, promotion, house move, school for dc, educational intervention, food shop!
He has always been like it and I just ignored it as I had drive enough for both of us. I thought it would be contagious.
I didn't want him to become just like me, but I'm exhausted of being responsible.
Things like if I go out there is no homework completed, no nutritious food cooked, no lunchbox prepared.
He's not lazy just... unaware?
My fear is growing old with him.
This is a good enough reason right?

I was in EXACTLY the same situation, my exhb just didn't get it. I desperately wanted to have just a little support at home, I did everything. I asked, provided examples and even ideas for him to provide more support. It was affecting my mental health / sleep / diet etc etc. I felt more like his mum than his wife.

Unfortunately, nothing changed and the resentment within the relationship was so much I made the decision to leave. I was so lonely, I didn't feel as though it was even a choice anymore.

I have been separated a year, he still doesn't get it although the kids do seem to. I do my best to be on good terms with him for the children. I am SO SO much better, I am sleeping better I feel better. He still does nothing to support the children, he just can't seem to see what their needs even are.

Its such a tough choice if your not abused etc etc, but you will feel better when the dust settles. I am guessing however much you explain yourself he still just won't understand. If he did, you wouldn't be in the situation you are in??