Visitation

[LucyLovesCheese]

Hi I'm just wondering if anyone can help ?!

Basically I've separated from my partner and they are moving into a shared house. My question is how do people handle visitation with children in this case? Obviously overnights aren't possible, so what do people do? I'm not overly keen on them visiting the children in my home but will consider it if there isn't any other options- to add my stbx doesn't have a car so trips outside of the area they live will be tricky.
Children are teens for context.
Thank you.

Mine doesn’t live in a shared house but he rents out all his rooms in his own house so my kids could never go there or stay over instead he use to take them out for the day every fortnight, didn’t last long as he got bored (he only wanted to see them in my house)

I'm trying not to get drawn into not seeing the kids at my house all the time but don't want to be unreasonable either!

That’s the difficult part I just couldn’t have my ex at my house, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to not want to have him at your house. Does he have family he could take them to and see them there?

Could he take them to relatives, friends? The the typical options like McDonald's, ours is full of dads and kids on weekly, very few mums or whole families .,,

I don't think it's a big deal tbh, even over nights. Presumably he would be with them all the time??!! Just let them get on with it.

Teenagers are surely OK to bunk on an air bed for now? If they want to see df and are happy with that can't see you get a say tbh.

My ex has had various accommodation situations. A shared flat. Then a shared house. Now with gf who has large family of her own.

I've not like either of the set ups at the start but the bottom line is what is the risk? They are visiting their parent. So not as if they are there alone. Depending upon the house share. In both set ups the kids never saw much of the other people. As ex had top floor and own bathroom.

Kids eventually voted with their feet as they got older.

For different reasons social services were involved and although not ideal it wasn't a safe guarding matter and he is allowed to parent poorly.

Thank you for your thoughts, I'm not concerned for their safety more was thinking it might not be okay for them to stay if he only has one room in a house.
No family nearby unfortunately.
Maybe I'm over thinking it all.
I'm happy for him to see the children and as others have pointed out they are old enough to decide what they want I'm just curious how others handle this type scenario.

They are teens. It s fine . Let them get on with it

Don't start the precedent of him seeing the children in your home, your private space, @LucyLovesCheese. I bet he'll get so comfortable with this arrangement that he won't see a reason why things should change.

Let him book an AirBnB apartment or similar, or he takes them out during the day and they (not him) return home afterwards.

It's up to him to sort out suitable accommodation for his children when he's with them - not yours. 🌹