This isn't normal

[depechegal]

Me and partner been together 18 months. We don't live together. I've been through a bit of stress recently and I'm post menopause so sex has fallen down the list a bit.
This morning I fancied it so dp came back to bed. I had my eyes closed, I thought he was enjoying himself.

I caught him browsing his phone! I feel so rejected after trying to get myself going. I just stopped and turned over. Defeated by bedroom etiquette. Just frankly rude.

I like to think I'm a pretty easy going person.
I never said the sex was crap, this was a first for me. He's kind and generous. I dunno I've dog sat for 2 days and now this

OP, I'm sorry but I advanced searched. All I will say is that it is in your hands as to what you will put up with in a relationship, especially of 18 months duration where you are not living together and do not share children. You have a choice.

There will be a lot of people saying walk away and they will be right. Your past doesn't have to define your future but only you can see and control that.

OP going by your posting history do you have a habit of trying to save people?

Diagram needed here

‘The main thing that isn't working is the issues with the dog. I was never consulted, he just expects me to look after it while he's living his own life...’

What?!!!

Get rid of him quickly.

@depechegal

I think I have more of an emotional connection than he does with me. Nope he never asked why I stopped. I just turned over and went back to sleep. The main thing that isn't working is the issues with the dog. I was never consulted, he just expects me to look after it while he's living his own life...

If you feel connected to him but feel he's not connected to you, that's not a connection, that's an attachment. It's not the same. Connection is about 2 people knowing, understanding, appreciating, valuing each other. Attachment is about hanging on, and if it's imbalanced, it's unhealthy.

If you're attached to someone and you can feel that they are not so much attached to you, it's horrible, and you need to take responsibility for your wellbeing by getting away from the imbalance, either by addressing it within the relationship, or by leaving the relationship.

The main thing here isn't the dog, and the fact that you think it is demonstrates that you are minimising your feelings of distress within the relationship, due to the emotional imbalance.