Divorcing abuser advice please

[Losingthewill12]

Has anyone any experience of divorcing an abuser who they had children with? What happened? Did abuser get access to children? Did they already have access? Or how long hadn’t they had access? Is it worth the risk of filing for divorce? Exh was abusive to me and children. I’d rather stay married to him than let him near children.

Is the abuse recorded with police?
Does he have a criminal record?
How old are the dc?
Do the dc haVe a social worker involved ?

It doesn't make sense to stay in s house with an abuser

I reported him to police when we separated almost a year ago but never heard anything back from the police, they did inform my eldest (not his child) school of the situation as it had affected her also.
Our children are 2 and 3 and haven’t had contact since we separated. No social workers are involved.

I’m still getting my head straight so don’t want to rock the boat by filing for divorce and stirring it all up

Ah good you separated.
Then maybe do nothing til dc are older
The longer no contact
The easier to demand slow resumption of contact
Unless you need the divorce financially

Thank you, that’s what I was thinking too but wasn’t sure. I don’t need to I just didn’t want to be connected to him after everything

If the kids aren't currently having contact I would leave things stay quiet .

See what you can separate legally with a lawyer like next of kin etc
What you can do pre divorce
Guardian fir your dc if you die etc