New Partner becoming a turn off

[embers]

Changed my name for this.

Me and my partner has recently slept together for the first time and it was horrible. He'd eaten a large meal before hand and so was grunting, burping and hicupping etc all the way through. He was making me feel sick. Afterwards he went straight to sleep and was farting all night.

Things had been good between us before this, we had a laugh and enjoyed each others company but this experience has TOTALLY put me off. I see him as slobbish now, I noticed he doesnt brush his teeth much and is constantly burping so I'm finding it hard to even kiss him.

He eats like a pig, very fast, belching and slurping and he eats tons more that anyone I know and he's quite lazy, sleeps in until dinner time, refuses to walk anywhere, leaves his dirty clothes in piles on the floor.

Is it just the bad experience of our first intimate night that is making me feel like this or is everything else genuinly a problem? I feel quite confused about it. We've not had sex since, obviously but I cant stop thinking about it and it makes me feel sick when I do.

What a catch!
That reminds me when i brought home a date once and he got into my bed, fell asleep and then let out a reallly long whistly fart. That was the end of that romance.

hmm - doesnt sound like the early passions are burning? poor you - sounds like a bit of a let down.

did you find him attractive til that first time? how long have you known him and i guess the key question for me is - do you still fancy him? if no - then its early days and you can part ways??

God, you'd think he's at least make an effort for the first time..you can expect things to lapse over time but thats ridiculous. It will only get worse. If he's pissing you off now think what it'll be like in a few years.....

Sounds like my dh !!!

Hmmm - sound slike your embers have burned out to be honest !h

Was that the first time you slept together? if so, it doens't bode well. Passion and romance can fade over time, and people sometimes stop making the effort after years and years together...but the first night???!!! I'd get rid!

You're supposed to feel like that after 10 years and 2 children, (and even then it's a problem!), not in the early days!! Doesn't sound very promising for you as a couple tbh. He was actually burping during sex?!!

My DP didnt fart or belch in front of me for months.. and certainly not the first time we slept together.. was all sweet smelling and lovely... Sounds horrid, poor you

relationships last or fail because you find out things you like or don't like over any given period of time. you have gone off him, its over. BIg FAT PIG get out out out!!!

run run as fast as you can, he can't have you he's the farting man

I apologise in advance but I laughed at this thread [grin[. As others have said, if he burps and farts first time what will he be like in 5 or 10 years time . YUK!

Poor you. Dump him NOW!

happymumathome!!

Gosh, sounds horrible, agree with the others, if it's like this now there really is no hope. Laave him I'd say, and let him know why

Yuk. yuk yuk yuk yuk yuk.

Just think - men tend to be on their best behaviour at the beginning of a relationship, so this is him trying to impress you.

run.

he sounds gross( sorry )-but that would really put me off

I have 3 brothers, a father, a stepfather, a husband and a son so I have lived with a lot of men! Actually we lived with FIL for a while as well. I do consider myself very tolerant of "mens ways" becasse of this. However, what you have described is disgusting (IMO) and does represent a genuine problem. I think he should have declined the sex, saying that he had some indigestion. It is all very well for men to sit there farting if they are spending the evening watching telly and eating pizza, but THE FIRST SHAG AND SLEEPOVER . Many women find this sort of thing a problem a long way into a relationship, but I think it's happened extremely soon for you! I am quite happy for my DH to fart and burp around the house and laugh about it, I don't care if he does it at the table or whatever but I don't think my he would actually have sex with me if he was having a burping fit and had overeaten like that.

Maybe you should feel flattered he's so relaxed in your company he can 'let it all out'??

I'm not serious, btw.

DUMP .......AND.......DON'T......LOOK.....BACK

Yuk, if he hasn't even made an effort for the "first time" (was he a bit drunk btw, that may excuse his lack of inhibition), and you find him a turn off, I'd make a sharp exit!

snigger at happymumathome's run run.
It would put me off too. I dont think there is any future in it now tbh.

I'm just imagining How will you break it off though 'I dont want to see you again coz you fart'

Does this guy have any redeeming features?! Agree with everyone else who says that it's bad news that he couldn't even be bothered on your very first night together! My dp is no angel on the burping and farting front, but he at least tries to keep it under control, and certainly not during sex!! If you want to keep seeing him, you are going to have to talk about this, but it really doesn't sound promising if he's making you feel sick...

Well thereare follks who would find him a great big testosterone-fuelled turn on. I guess. Not me though. Presumably once he feels really relaxed around a woman he thinks it's OK to shit the bed and wipe his cock on the curtains.
Just tell him you don't think you're right for each other, thanks and goodbye.

Well, unless the actual shag, wind accompaniment not withstanding, was really good...

ew

Leave now. Dont waste more time. Can you imagine him when he isnt trying his best?

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