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Dating apps

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marmalade32 · 28/02/2022 20:40

So.. I'm ready to get back out there after my ex cheated, gaslighted and generally lied to me.
I've never used a dating app. Which is the best? Looking online looks like maybe match and eharmony? Thoughts please?

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namechangerqwerty · 28/02/2022 20:50

I used match & Pretty sure I've met the love of my life on there. Good luck.

BabyTurtIe · 28/02/2022 20:51

They are all on the same ones so doesn’t matter which you use

iwishu · 28/02/2022 20:54

Don't think paid apps are any safer than the free ones from awful men. The quality of the men on match isn't great, I dont think it's worth paying for. I would recommend bumble or hinge, you have to weed out a lot of players as unfortunately it's rife with them.

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marmalade32 · 28/02/2022 20:54

@namechangerqwerty
That is wonderful... I'm so pleased for you

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marmalade32 · 28/02/2022 20:57

I went on Facebook dating.. For a day. I'm not blaming that site but there's some weirdos... Opening line of one man was that he was unconventional and not to everyone's taste as he was so open sexually 🤔🤔 literally opening gambit
Is that what I have to look forward to?

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Savoretti · 28/02/2022 21:01

Bumble

blockbustervideo · 28/02/2022 21:08

Raya

Shunter350 · 28/02/2022 21:17

Right.. I'm a bloke on the north side of 55..
Plenty of Fish is awful. Leave well alone.
I've met nice women through eHarmony and Our Time.
I've also used those "local" smaller sites. Those were not effective tbh.
It's not great to admit but i've found that generally the cheaper ( or free ) sites tend not to attract the partner I like.
And as a bloke I've been targeted with "adult" pop ups. PoF was especially bad at this.

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marmalade32 · 28/02/2022 21:18

I don't think I'd get on raya..

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marmalade32 · 28/02/2022 21:49

I've heard that about POF. Thank you ... Good to know your insight.

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beck01 · 28/02/2022 21:58

I done POF 8 years ago. Was warned against it about being free blah blah blah

Yes I received a few dick pics and time wasters.

Been with my POF fiancé 7 years last Friday... (covid stopped our 2020 wedding), happily merged family, 3 year old and house.

Give it a try...

My recommendation to my friends are ignore the ones that don't have full profiles. Whatsapp and talk lots and obviously only meet in public if you are really sure x

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marmalade32 · 28/02/2022 22:17

I've gone onto bumble to start with. I've realised people who use hashtags and the word lol are straight away left swipes.. I don't want to pay yet to see the ones who've swiped me. I've also swiped on men that arent usually my type as that hadn't served me well with the last 3 arseholes!! See what happens. Thank you so far.

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Musttryharder2021 · 01/03/2022 09:08

Meeting someone suitable is a case of luck, timing, coincidence. Not a specific dating app. If there was such a thing as meritocracy/magic formula ,we would all meet the "right" partner immediately on a dating app.

namechangerqwerty · 01/03/2022 10:41

Thank you @marmalade32 I definitely chatted to a few odd balls on there too but was very clear on boundaries. If a guy got into sex talk too fast I said thanks but no thanks before it progressedI I met three decent guys on there, but dating current DP (a couple of years) ago meant I was ready to leave the site. Possibly down to good luck & timing but I do believe there are out nice men there too. I hope you meet them too.

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marmalade32 · 01/03/2022 16:34

I've been chatting to some one and he's asked to meet me for a drink. I know people say talk for ages but I find it odd. Public place so I might just do it
Like @Musttryharder2021 says it's right time right place a lot of the time...

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Shunter350 · 01/03/2022 16:35

It's obvious I know but I live in a part of the country that has a relatively low population.
Which means that my matches are much more restrictive ( frustratingly so ) than if I lived in the Central Belt or parts of England..
Worth bearing in mind.

Shunter350 · 01/03/2022 19:11

And I've got this horrible feeling I've been ghosted.
Chatted for an evening with a nice woman, was pleasant and friendly.
Subsequent messages yesterday and today read and ignored.
I don't do sex messages or anything of that sort just "how's your day" sort of thing.
It's horrible to be ignored.
OLD is definitely a love / absolutely hate relationship.

namechangerqwerty · 01/03/2022 22:22

@marmalade32 yes meet in a public place & have an excuse lined up in case you need to make a quick exit!
When do you plan to meet?

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marmalade32 · 02/03/2022 17:03

Sorry.. Just come up on notifications. I think after the weekend. I need more than just one day.to speak I think. There's been a few today who've looked promising them just turned out to be wierd... I think just need to talk to them all! I like this one though... He seems to get me..

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