To tell him or not

[hopefuldreamerx]

So my current partner had a horse that he shared with his ex, they've been apart for some years now and no contact. He has said in the past that he missed the horse but wouldn't want to know any info about it now (presumably it's too difficult emotionally)
But I've just seen through mutual friends on social media that the horse has died.my partner won't see this as he doesn't use this particular platform so I'm not sure whether to tell him given what he said about it but I feel weird knowing and him not knowing... wwyd?? Thanks in advance x

Bump x

If he’s said he wouldn’t want to know anything now then maybe say nothing? Because it’s through mutual friends you found out, he’ll probably find out about it at some point somehow anyway and you can deal with however he feels at that time.

On the other hand, if you’ve commented on any of the posts so it’s “out there” that you know, then just tell him - “oh no, (name of mutual friend) has just posted that (name of horse) has died”. Then base your response on his reaction to that.

Something to think about – how would he feel if he found out you knew and said nothing? If you think he’d feel hurt that you said nothing, then tell him.

I definitely wouldn't say anything. He's said he doesn't want to know so he's made his wishes clear.

It sounds a bit strange saying he misses it but also doesn’t want to know anything about it. I think he’s not really bothered. Perhaps tell him if the horse ever comes up in conversation?