Am I being picky being put off by minor things like this?

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Basically I went out "On a date" so to speak with a guy that my friend set me up with so it was pretty much a blind date.
We went for a meal on the friday night and then on the saturday night I was going to a party anyway so I invited him along too and we went there together and had a good weekend. (no sex or anything like that).

Anyway the next day I was messing around on the PC and he came up on msn and during conversation he said "I know this is maybe a bit soon but, oh fuck it, I think I love ya babe" ??? He meant it though but he seemed so childish to a) say this over msn and b) say it so soon after we first met and then c) to say it like THAT.

Anyway later on he phoned and said during conversation again "I know this is going to sound stupid and I'm going to sound like a 12 year old but....will you be my girlfriend?" ??? he's nearly 30 for gods sake.

Do people actually ask each other to be boyfriends and girlfriends etc? I've never heard of it amongst adults before and to be honest the whole "love" and "girlfriend" thing has put me off completely, he seems really babyish.

Am I being too picky or would this put you off too?

someone saying they love me after one weekend would send me running for the hills

ewwww - sorry but yes it would put me off.

I think the 'will you be my girlfriend' thing is quite cute, but I'd run for the hills if someone told me they loved me after two quite chaste dates.

One month I could understand - but not one weekend.

yes that would put me off! but you have only been on one date with him so you can give him the benefit of the doubt to see if he has any redeeming features. But say to him, I'm a grown woman and tell him he needs to be a bit smoother to impress you. My dh used to say "i love you to pieces" which made me cringe but I weaned him off it.

the girlfriend thingy is ok , yes

No, that would put me off as well. I love you after one weekend? Sounds a bit odd!

I have a feeling that it shouldn't put you off....people should be up front and it's nice that he's not playing games BUT yes it would put me off.

my dh told me he loved me after two days.

We've been together for 12.5 years.

but I think it does depend on the circumstances. i.e. we met on a sailing holiday, were staying on same boat, talked a lot etc. butmaybe if I'd only been on a couple of "dates" I might feel differently iyswim?

The love bit - ruuuun but the will you be my girlfriend is communication, you know exactly where you stand - he wants to be with you and not date other girls, I think that is fair enough.

DH said he loved me on the phone (long distance) after two dates. He may have been slightly drunk at the time. By the time we saw each other next, he was talking about marriage.

It did make me wonder about his mental health at first, but we were married in a year.

Give him a chance

My dh told me he loved me after 3 days together.. 3 different days, 3 sundays where we hadn't really had any contact barr telephone calls in between..

We've been together 12 & half years too

I'd be inclined to give him a chance too

My dh also asked me to marry him within a few weeks, I said no 3 times... but by the time we were dating a year we were engaged & had a wedding date set.. house picked, the lot!!

How're you ever going to know if you don't give him a chance?

Sorry...another mesage from me:

What did you say when he said he thought he loved you & when he asked if you'd be his girlfriend?

My grandad proposed to my grandma on the night they met. They married three weeks later. They were happily married for over 50 years. So you never know...

Sounds like a nut job- even if he is really smitten with you there should be something telling him that's its a really bad idea to tell you!

Will you be my girlfriend is a bit clumsy it could have sounded better as "can I call you my gf" but even then after one weekend its all a bit rushed.

i'd say give him a chance. maybe he's totally kicking himself about being so icky.

we sometimes moan about lack of romance and commitment but when it comes along, albeit in a clumsy fashion, we slag it off.

THing is do you like him at all? Because if you aren't that fussed then going out with someone as frankly desperate as he sounds will get on your nerves pretty quickly. I'd have run away immediately myself. Barfing all the way.

i'd give him a chance.

mind, i'd keep a long stick handy, but i'd tentatively give him a chance.

would be weary bout the love bit but what the hec give it a chance you never know.

He sounds really clingy but if you like him otherwise, why not give it a go? The love bit would worry me a little.

What is his relationship history? He sounds either completely bowled over by you, or quite inexperienced.

Could be sweet, or supremely irritating - only time will tell.