Is there anything I could/should do here?

[DetailMouse]

A male friend and I have spent quite a bit of time together because he became single at around the same time I was widowed. Definitely very platonic on both sides, we were just handy companions for an evening out.

The GF he split was with a sweet woman with a lot of MH issues. They split, in the end, because he said she couldn't handle her friendship with another woman and he couldn't take the jealousy.

Now, I've seen him with that woman and I'm not surprised ex GF had an issue with it. She is a stunningly beautiful woman, much younger than him and whilst I believe it is just friendship on the part of the woman, male forend would definitely like more (although he denies it) Any woman would have to be a Saint or stupid not to have an issue with it, so I always felt it was unfair to blame ex and her MH for not being able to handle it. I've told him this too.

Anyway, 6m on he's started meeting ex "as friends". He's adamant they will just be friends and she understand this, but they're doing things like an evening in with Netflix and she's contacting couple friends to set up what are essentually double dates, which he's happy to attend. Whatever he's saying to her, she's getting a different message.

I've told him he's playing with fire and messing with someone who he knows has fragile MH. TBH it's made me step right back from him. I'm worried for ex, but I've only met her a handful of times. Is there anything else I should be doing.

When I say fragile MH, I mean self harming and being brought home by police in the early hours.

Obviously none of my business, except I do think this is a very vulnerable woman and it feels wrong not to at least try.

I don't think there is.

You've told him what you think and have backed off from the friendship a bit.

They are both adults, MH issues or not, so there isn't anything you can do.

What do you think you could do?

@GreyCarpet

I don't think there is.

You've told him what you think and have backed off from the friendship a bit.

They are both adults, MH issues or not, so there isn't anything you can do.

What do you think you could do?

I know. It just feels like "someone" should do "something"

She's started making couple like commens on his SM too. She obviously wants people to think they're back together.

Well, the issue that broke them up - this friend, is still an issue. So she's either decided to be ok with it, or he's lied about them not being friends anymore (she'll find this out eventually anyway).

I think, just leave them to it. She knows about their friendship, he knows she's insecure about it - it will either end anyway, or they'll work through it. And I'm sure she has friends and family of her own to warn her off, or support her.

All you can do is encourage him to always be honest with her, and not lead her on if he does like this other woman. But if she's already wary of his other female friend, she likely won't look kindly on inteference from another female friend - no matter how well intentioned.

Anyway, since he denies having feelings for this other woman, for all you know he really does like his ex and wants things to work out. You'll never know for sure what is the truth between him and his ex, and him and the friend.

There is nothing you can do
I wouldn’t be friends with someone
Like that though

She's started making couple like commens on his SM too. She obviously wants people to think they're back together.

There's literally nothing you can so though aside from bluntly telling her. And, as you're not her friend, she won't listen.

Tbh, even I'd she were your friend, she probably wouldn't listen.

My best friend had an affair with a married man. I told her exactly how I thought it was going to pan out. She disagreed because shes bought the script.

I'll give you 3 guesses which of us was right.

Made no difference.