So me and my ex boyfriend broke up in November 2019 (together 2 years) . He contacted me in july 2021 and we had ended on "okay" terms, we had a few friendly chats around the start of 2020 but we went almost a year with zero contact. When we first started talking it was friendly but then it started escalating and things were getting flirty and he was eager to meet up. I had mentioned about us getting back together and he expressed that he wanted to wait until we met up. He would always accuse me of leading him on because it had been 2 months since HE messaged ME and I wasn’t ready to meet up yet so he’d get in a mood and say I’m leading him on and try give me ultimatums :/ Anyway, about a month of him basically begging to meet up, we finally did (September 2021) I really regret this but we ended up having sex. The next day he messaged me saying he doesn't want to be in a relationship, I honestly felt terrible and used. I was in a bad place at the time in general and I later decided that I didn't want a relationship atm
either and just wanted friends with benefits, I thought it wouldn't be as stressful. But then be got super controlling, he wanted to know what I was doing, who I was talking to, he’d try to go through my phone, asking where
I was (he gaslit me in to sharing my location) also he can go out with friends and I wouldn't hear a single word from him for 8 hours, but when I don't reply for an hour he's blowing up my phone -_- he wanted relationship benefits without being in a relationship. He eventually stopped
calling/texting as much as he used to, he would be cold and distant and less affectionate, he even stopped having sex with me lol, I’d always find him doing/saying things just to trigger me. I
felt so lonely and ridiculous, everything was always my fault according to him, he never took any blame for anything. He then started telling me he would like to marry me :/ I was confused af, it almost felt like emotional and mental abuse. January 2022 I had enough and wrote out a whole paragraph expressing my feelings, I was getting mixed signals because who tells someone they’ll marry them but don’t want to even commit to a relationship?! :/ I basically said I need to know where I stand and if he don’t wanna be in a relationship with me then I don’t want to continue wasting time arguing with someone every single day that I’m not even in a relationship with and not even having sex with, I just felt like an emotional punching bag, just someone he can take his anger out on after a bad day :/ I’d ask when am I seeing him again and his response would be “idk I’ll let you know” but was always going out with his friends.. anyway, he didn't care and didn’t take me serious so I told him I don't want to be in this situation anymore and don’t want to talk. the next day he messaged me “good morning love hope you slept well” as if nothing happened and I didn't respond. He even threatened to call my mom if I don't respond to his calls/texts, he even contacted me on a whole different number and a whole new instagram account :/. He has sent me 2 gifts now and I'm not sure why because he never got me gifts before. Has anyone been in a situation similar to this before?!