Pregnant and think partner is stealing from me?

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Hey everyone

I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant, suffered a loss in the summer of last year at quite a late stage so have been especially worried during this one. Thankfully all is well so far.

I've had a few issues with my partner in the past, when I first found out about this pregnancy I also found out he had been unfaithful while I was pregnant with the baby I lost. I was so nervous about this pregnancy that I forgave him and stayed with him.

Recently some of my jewellery items have gone missing. First was an expensive ring which I wore everyday, and always put in the same place at night. I couldn't find it one morning and he even helped me to look for it, I came to the conclusion my cat must have knocked it off and I threw it away by accident.

A few weeks ago a bracelet of mine went missing from my drawer. It was always in the same drawer and I never wore this one due to the clasp being flimsy and I would worry I would lose it if I wore it. I would always see it in the same drawer and happened to notice it wasn't there anymore. I became suspicious as nobody had been in that room apart from him. I couldn't directly ask him as I know he would just deny it. Again, he was helping me look for it and acting concerned.

I've been having my suspicions about him and a few days ago I checked his phone. On his internet history he had been looking up what items of ID you need with you when pawning gold. He has no jewellery of his own and I am almost certain it is mine he is selling. I don't know what to do as he will just deny it if I ask him outright, and will blame me for looking down his phone.

I'm struggling to live like this and I feel all trust has gone. He's quite emotionally abusive and when I've thrown him out in the past he worms his way back, saying he has nowhere to go and guilt tripping me. I don't understand it as he earns good money and doesn't have many outgoings so I don't know why he would steal but I don't see how else things are going missing. I really don't know what to do, I feel trapped and scared of bringing a baby into something like this. I've been having to cancel work if he's going to be in as I don't like leaving him in the house unattended with my belongings.

Would be grateful for anybody's thoughts

It's almost certainly drugs or gambling. It might be prostitutes. Time to go.

My ex used to take my card and withdraw money from the cash machine while I was in the shower. It's only when I'd come to pay for something, shopping etc that I'd be declined or I'd check my balance and notice it was less than it should be.

It's stealing. Get rid of him. You wouldn't accept it from anyone else so don't accept it from him.

Phone the police and report those items missing. Tell them of your suspicions about your DP and what evidence you have found. Any other valuables you have bring them for safe keeping to someone you trust like a friend or family member.

Absolutely disgraceful, report him to the police, have him arrested at his workplace, god knows what he's been stealing from his colleagues. Once a thief always one. I'm so sorry OP, this must be utterly awful for you and your unborn. Get some support from your family & close friends.

That's absolutely awful 😞 I would get rid for sure

Nah...I'm in a similar position in that I lost a wee one late on last summer too and am pregnant again. If my partner was doing this he would be gone. You've been through enough. You don't need him xx

Call the police

Give jewellery to a friend to look after

Change the locks

Give baby your surname

You must realise that your partner is a liar and a thief. If he stealing from you his pregnant partner there is o line that he won't cross.
You can't inflict this man on your baby , please kick him out now.

I’d call the police and also call around local pawn shops with a description of your jewellery to see whether they have it or not, tell the police if they do. I’d leave him, change the locks and definitely give baby your surname.

@SartresSoul

I’d call the police and also call around local pawn shops with a description of your jewellery to see whether they have it or not, tell the police if they do. I’d leave him, change the locks and definitely give baby your surname.

All of this.

Do the police really have time to deal with such small thefts? Better to deal with it urself and buy a tiny camera and leave a trap for him, or just dump him although imagine if the jewellery turns up after