How to be and feel more positive.........

[sammysam]

I seem to have got myself into a negative and superstitious frame of mind that i can't shift.....how can i stop it?

I've always been of the opinion that if you don't expect too much you won't be disapointed but this is more and it's starting to get me down.

I have spilt second nasty thoughts that go through my mind about death, accidents etc that i think are fairly normal but i hate as i then have to touch wood etc plus i have more than ever before. they are always about the people i love most-which make it worse

so how can i stop it? it really is getting me down

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I'm trying this too, before christmas I was very worried and stressed about lots of things, I had headaches everyday. Over the hols I've been more and more relaxed, having dp around more, not working and spending more time relaxing and socialising has helped alot! I'm now determined not to be brought down. I do have the odd thoughts that are not great, last night I couldn't get to sleep and was thinking i'm really happy lately (my life could be a million times worse) but I just think the times when I feel really happy it must mean something bad is going to happen to spoil it (sounds silly now i type it out) I'm very lucky though when we have bad times it is usually money related, which is no good for my over draught but its hardly the end of the world we still manage to put food on the table etc.

Just wanted you to know I sort of understand.

Dior-when i write it down it does but i don't think its as extreme as it sounds....

Thanks LoveMyGirls-thats how i feel!

I'm not negative all the time-it just sort of creeps in when i'm not expecting it-i really can't explain it-i just want to know how to stop it!

Anyone have any hints/tips or know of a great book? Anything? I want this to be New Year new me!

Oh I do this - drives dh potty. Always imagining horrible things and waiting for the other shoe to drop. And yes - if things are fine that must be a bad omen [hmmm]

If we could get around to having cognitive behaviuoral therapy (which what would be advised for this kind of thing) they would get us into the habit of using a set of positive thoughts/phrases to think or even say out loud firmly when we are having negative thoughts. You have to remember to do it though... and I forget. And before I know it, time has passed and I am wallowing in anxiety over things that will - probably - touch wood - never happen.

Thanks Acinonyx-at least i'm not alone just want to stop it!
Outwardly i'm very laid back but i think i store everything up in my subconcious and it festers away in there and pops out to worry me-iykwim?

Been searching for a book I read years and years ago, found it and then have been searching the internet as it appears to be out of print...

but I found it on Ebay of course!

It's great - it is based on cognitive techniques and I can thoroughly recommend it

Thanks winestein-did you find it easy to use?

Sorry Sammy - I popped out!

It's great - it's just reading and some exercises (as in pencil and paper, not aerobics!) An all round very positive experience

thanks winestein-if i get a mo i must order that book-just got on here now dd is screaming for me so got to go-had all of 5 mins to myself