Hello, first i’d like to apologize for my English since i’m not a native speaker. :””)
I’m having a trouble with my older sister.
Two months ago, she broke up with her boyfriend and now she’s very depressed. For context, she initiated the broke up cause she’s wondering wether her boyfriend really loves her or not. It’s hard for her because her boyfriend is struggling with his sexual orientation — but he’s a devoted Christian so he decided to start a serious relationship with my sister and tried his best to be committed with their relationship. My sister really loves her boyfriend but she was very insecure — her attachment is more likely “anxious” type meanwhile her boyfriend is “avoidant” type. She was craving for romance in her relationship but she couldn’t get it.
She thought their relationship won’t work out so she impulsively broke their relationship. Her boyfriend was very sad, but at the end he agreed.
The very next day after their break up, she regretted her decision and tried to fix their relationship. Unfortunately her boyfriend already decided to not be together with her anymore. This is where the trouble start.
Her break up really destroy her. She can’t even do mundane activities, her job became a mess, and she doesn’t want to take care of herself and very suicidal.
She’ll come to me almost all the time and start venting and crying and it also broke my heart when i see my own family going through hard time, but it start affecting my life in a very stressful way.
I know it’s hard for her but it’s hard for me to be always be there for her — we lived in a same house and i have to take care of chores while she’s in this situation. I also have my own responsibilities to be completed, I have a very busy job and if i missed my deadline i will be given a large penalty. This is also stressful because i’m also financially contributing in a larger sum for our living cost.
She seeks me almost all the time to vent, but truthfully i don’t really have emotional can to throw all of my problem too so i’m starting to get really overwhelmed.
I don’t know what should i do. I’m also frustrated because i feel i bear all the consequences of something that i didn’t do at all.
I already gave her all the advice i could give, pray for her, encouraging her to socialize but she just can’t.
I think the problem is because she’s still hoping to get back together with her boyfriend. I really try my best to be understanding, but i’m starting to reach my limit.
I want to let her be responsible with her own decision and let her be, but she kept saying she wants to die and i don’t know what should i do.
What should i do in this situation? How can i help my sister getting better?