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second date flaking

29 replies

jamestaylor23 · 28/02/2022 09:28

I had a great first date with a girl recently. We hit it off straight away, lots in common, banter, laughing, flirting, touching, etc and the date lasted 7 hours across 3 venues.

When I dropped her home she text me straight away saying she had a good time and when I asked her out again the next day she agreed.

I was supposed to see her last Friday but on the day of the date at 7am she hits me with a text saying "she couldn't make it, ate something wrong and wasn't feeling well, sorry and have a good Friday"

I'm gauging from the text that she's not interested because she didn't offer to reschedule and I haven't heard from her since.

It's fine but I'm interested to know from a female-perspective how to read things better to save us both time and how things can change so quickly even when it seems like chemistry is there? Between dates was only 5 days.. I don't text too often due to work commitments but I was still keeping communication up until just a day/2 days before seeing each other

OP posts:
Grinling · 01/03/2022 07:35

‘High quality woman’ makes her sound like produce.

Sausagedogsarethebest · 01/03/2022 08:59

Depends on what you mean by 'banter' and 'touching'. Could have been fun and reciprocal, or could be misogynistic 'jokes' and groping, we don't know. Maybe in the cold light of the next morning, when her head was clear, she decided the date hadn't been quite as nice as she had first thought. Three venues - was she tipsy/drunk at the end?

youvegottenminuteslynn · 01/03/2022 09:03

Can you understand OP why the phrase "high quality women" has been so badly received by posters on this thread? We aren't produce.

MimosaFields · 01/03/2022 10:24

@overnightangel

“You will probably meet someone when you are least expecting it and getting on with enjoying your life.”

I’m sick of reading this sort of stuff on here, it’s such nonsense.
“…Yeah just sit at home not going out and not doing anything or making an effort, the man or woman of your dreams will just fall into your lap…”

I second this! For the last seven years, I've had people telling me "it will happen when you are not expecting it". Well, I'm starting to have serious doubts about that nonsense
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