'D'H and I decided to separate last week. It all came to a head on Valentine's Day because I decided to buy myself some flowers as I knew he wouldn't, and tbh, it was just the last straw. He has ignored me for years, literally didn't speak to me for 3 weeks after Xmas... and we live in a ordinary semi, not a mansion!
He isn't actively ignoring me, he is just so wrapped up in his own selfish little world that he can't see that his behaviour is appalling. He even forgot my birthday this week- no card, not even a text msg. Apparently his 'head is all over the place' and he forgot. Bearing in mind the whole reason I want to call it a day is because he doesn't make me feel like he loves me, this just feels like confirmation.
This issue is now that he won't bloody go! He went to his Dad's for a few days but now is back and is making noises about staying 'while he sorts the finances'. There are no finances to sort- I earn my own money, I'm staying in the house with the kids (we already decided that), he just needs to rent a flat nearby and get out of my bloody house!
I know he is pushing for us to just co-habit as he has mentioned it a few times but that feels like a shitty stick to me. I'll still do all the cooking, cleaning, kids etc while working full time and he will just hole up in his office and have a bloody excuse to ignore me! Sounds like the same old shit to me!!
He has big issues with change and seeing things from other people's pov due to his ASD but how do I make him realise that he needs to go! He said he doesn't know why I'm in such a hurry and that I must really hate him to make him leave but it's the opposite! I love him but he doesn't love me and it's killing me. He threw us away years ago and I've tried everything to save us. I've just run out of strength.