Wasn't sure which topic to post this under..
It's about my sister and her neighbours. Background to story, she married into a Pakistani family and moved into a house with her husband in the heart of our city's Pakistani community. From what I gather, it's a community where everyone knows each other and looks out for each other.. Nice qualities in many ways. Nothing against that. My sister is a busy working mum of 3 (all under 10). Husband also works long hours and they rarely get any time "alone" either as husband and wife or as a family. The pressures of daily life.
On their street, the community is very tight knit and all know each other, in and out of each other's homes a lot... no invitations or knocking on the door before walking in. My BIL said this is all normal in his culture but it's really starting to grate on my sister. Also, a lot of neighbours seem to use her as unpaid babysitter, random neighbour's kids just "turn up" after school, expecting my sister to feed and entertain them until their own parents get home in the evenings... No "would you mind looking after my child for a couple of hours after school?" Nobody ever asks, they just turn up. Recently one of the mum's on her street was rushed into hospital and guess whose house her 5 kids where brought to be another neighbour? Those 5 kids ended up staying a couple of days/nights at my sister's. It's a 2 bedroom house.
Not that long ago, some of her in laws messaged her out of the blue and said they're coming to stay... 1 day's notice was given. About 5 people again turned up, expecting sister to entertain them, host, cook and show them around UK.
I just find it totally rude to impose on a host who hasn't invited you. AIBU?
Worried as my sister is permanantly tired, just running round after random neighbours, school runs for other families, providing after school care and generally being taken advantage of. She's run ragged and most of the time it's by other mums.
Worried about her health, she's too nice to tell people no and is surrounded by people on the street where they live who persuade her it's her "duty" to do all this for other people all the time..