Well., this is difficult. After a stressful 25 year marriage I decided to leave. That was about 18 months ago. Then my wife had a breakdown. The really serious type. So I stayed. Then she lost her dad then her best friend. She's had two doses of covid and is now struggling with a throat illness.
I'm on anti depressants and occasionally anti anxiety meds for my marriage.
I finally moved out in November last year.
I keep in touch with my ex, I don't hate her, she's the mother of my kids.. but for my own health I can't live with her.
Tonight she had a breakdown. Said she made a list of who would miss her.
I stayed for a while, held her hand and hugged her.
It's was so hard leaving her like that but I have to or I'll get sucked in and my life will end.
I've contacted the kids and her sister. Just to remind them that she is loved and that life is precious.
Tomorrow I will try and speak to her GP and will take her to a previously arranged gynae appointment.
I'm feeling anxious about my ex. It all triggered with me leaving.
But I'm not going back.