My DH has outbursts. Shouting etc. In October I suggested a new exterior composite door. We already have a composite front door. The existing wooden door is badly split, it lets water in and is a security risk. A new composite would have been fitted in maybe a couple of hours but he insisted on having a wooden one. The joiner delivered it and then unfortunately it's been bad weather. He has been trying to undercoat and topcoat in stages. All the while the door has been laid on its side in our kitchen, blocking the dining table. We don't have a garage or anywhere to store it. Today he applied a topcoat and was shouting that he wanted to throw it down the garden as it looks crap. I said ok but don't shout at me. He said "How about I shove the door up your arse. It's your fault for wanting a door in autumn!". He has been shouting like this for a couple of years. Often when he's loading the car up or doing DIY he will start shouting. Just now, he was making some fish for dinner. I was putting some butter on and the foil tore a little. He started shouting again. I have chest pain and tears in my eyes. He keeps saying he has stress and anxiety but has no thought to my feelings.
I travel across the city every day to look after my mum. Our teenager has SEN that affects his learning and is going through GCSE'S at the moment. School have rang a couple of times to say how anxious DC is. DH won't give DC lifts anywhere if he might lose parking on our street. So it costs me about £20/25 in taxis to take him to activities a couple of times a week.
GP says DH is not depressed.
Our teen not allowed gaming in his room, so is sat on an uncomfortable cube in the living room which hurts his back. DH won't let him sit in the armchair. (He could sit on the sofa instead). Why are men so difficult?