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Should I block him?

17 replies

confused2k22 · 27/02/2022 14:23

I met this guy on a night out a few weeks ago and we met up once again. Then he went pretty cold on me but still messaged.

It was evident it was going no where but occasionally he still messages me when he’s horny I think.

He has no intention of meeting up. But I find it hard to get my hopes up when he does message me and it’s just completely draining me. I get quite easily emotionally attached to guys (we have slept together).

Anyway, should I block him? And I should wait for him to read my last message (we were both out drunk but he’s ignoring me now) from last night or just block him now?

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caranations · 27/02/2022 14:35

What difference will it make if you wait for him to read it? It's just delaying the inevitable.

Unless you want him to continue to use you, block him.

Milomonster · 27/02/2022 14:40

Why wouldn’t you block him if it’s clear he’s using you when he’s horny? I

Aquamarine1029 · 27/02/2022 14:41

Of course you should block him. Or do you enjoy fuckwits who waste your time?

RedFlagsAllOver · 27/02/2022 14:43

I would op. I have someone in my life who's been messaging me since September 2020. We have only met once, he messages every day. It's got to a point now where I know he's just messing me about but It's been so long I feel like if I block him now all that time and emotion has been for nothing.
There's always excuses for why he can't meet atm.
Block before you waste too much time on him.

RobertsRadio · 27/02/2022 14:44

Block, Block, Block. And work on your self esteem, you deserve better.

RoyKentsChestHair · 27/02/2022 14:46

Block and move on.

Same for you Redflags - block the dickhead today and don’t look back!

pinkyredrose · 27/02/2022 14:51

Why on earth would you keep someone in your life who doesn't give a fuck about you?

stealthninjamum · 27/02/2022 14:52

Op I wouldn’t block anyone. I would just ‘mute’ him so his messages are silent and I don’t jump to open them. I really don’t like these twats with big egos who mess women around and I think it’s far more satisfying for him to see you ignoring his messages otherwise if you block him it’ll just be a boost to his ego.

tintin13 · 27/02/2022 15:04

@stealthninjamum

Op I wouldn’t block anyone. I would just ‘mute’ him so his messages are silent and I don’t jump to open them. I really don’t like these twats with big egos who mess women around and I think it’s far more satisfying for him to see you ignoring his messages otherwise if you block him it’ll just be a boost to his ego.
same
Original poster
confused2k22 · 27/02/2022 15:13

I blocked him and wow it does feel pretty good / empowering to be honest!!

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Aquamarine1029 · 27/02/2022 15:40

@confused2k22

I blocked him and wow it does feel pretty good / empowering to be honest!!
Good for you! Don't ever allow yourself to be used like that again.
Musttryharder2021 · 27/02/2022 16:10

As long as you don't unblock him when you're feeling weak Halo it's all good!

Milomonster · 28/02/2022 07:25

Blocking is pointless as his number if still there. Delete it and all messages. Leave no trace of him in your phone. I blocked and unblocked to see if a guy would message again. Sure enough, he did, and I ended up in the same cycle I promised myself that I wouldn’t. DELETE.

Milomonster · 28/02/2022 07:28

@RedFlagsAllOver oh gosh I’ve been in an exact same situation. It’s a massive head fuck. My chap would go silent though for weeks without any word. So, I deleted him. He messaged after a few weeks yesterday but no part of me wants to reply.

wingscrow · 28/02/2022 07:33

Raise your standards. Don't have anything with men who don't care about you and just want to use you when they feel like having sex with someone...

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confused2k22 · 28/02/2022 08:33

@Milomonster

Blocking is pointless as his number if still there. Delete it and all messages. Leave no trace of him in your phone. I blocked and unblocked to see if a guy would message again. Sure enough, he did, and I ended up in the same cycle I promised myself that I wouldn’t. DELETE.
There is zero trace of him on my phone. No conversations etc. And it’s only his number that is blocked, I don’t have him still saved as a contact or anything.

I get what you’re saying about him still being on my phone. However right now blocking him is self-preservation as I don’t want him to contact me.

Maybe in 6 months I’ll unblock him and get rid him off my phone but I need to un-learn to message him and to expect him to message.

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Watchkeys · 28/02/2022 13:49

@confused2k22

I blocked him and wow it does feel pretty good / empowering to be honest!!
The key to a happy life in which you are respected and treated well by yourself and by others is:

Stay away from people who make you feel negative things.

That's it. Boundaries, sorted.

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