how would you feel about this - am I overreacting?

[MaMaLa321]

I'm feeling very unhappy with my husband at the moment, and I'm posting here for a sanity check on the issue.
The background is that a few years ago my brother told us that our mum had told him that my husband had cancer. Which he hadn't.
So, a few years on and we've just had a family party , which went well, and, when everyone left, my husband has told me that he took my (90 year old) mum on one side and asked her about why she did it.
My mother is, and always has been, quite difficult, but I feel really angry and upset that he would do this, especially several years after the event.
Would you feel angry with him? He just doesn't get it and think he's been reasonable.

I think he has every right to ask her. It's an odd thing for your mother to have said and it's only fair that he asks about it even now later on.

OP, have you ever considered therapy / counselling? Personally I think it would be a good idea to start looking around for a good therapist you gel well with, to help take you through the next few difficult years both while your mother is still alive and for when she isn't.

You'll have a fair bit to come to terms with.

Wishing you well

OMG just how awful are you to be annoyed at your husband really you have got to be on a wind up. You need to apologise to your dh and do it now. Then ask your mother why she said such an awful thing. I wonder just how hurt your dh is by your mother saying he had cancer, you not asking your mother why she said it and not supporting him when he asked your mother. He could be so pissed off at you that he finds sympathetic ear at work and a lovely single lady giving him all the right words and gestures and there you go they start an affair. You are supposed to support your partner and you have not don't be surprised if there are consequences sorry to sound so dramatic

@Canyouhearmehello umm hello “you’re going to make your husband have an affair”? What are you on about??

@Canyouhearmehello

Your post was crystal clear and frankly out of order and certainly not helpful and supportive to the OP. This is the Relationships section were the convention is to be supportive. If you're looking for a bit of tussle I suggest you pop over the the AIBU section which are a bit more open season.

@Comtesse was being polite - absolutely no need for the sarky aggression

My post was definitely supportive to OP I was merely pointing out if OP was not supportive to her husband( and be honest she was not) he may look for support elsewhere. Please tell me how that was out of order. I suppose you would prefer OP came back on here in a few months to say her dh is having an EM because he felt completely crushed because he was supportive to her when he wanted to know why his mil said he had cancer and OP was annoyed with him. Obviously by your standards I am not supposed to give advice that does not agree with you. My advice still stands to OP support your partner in this or he may find support elsewhere. This is good advice because if you cannot rely on your partner's support in a case like this it may be the beginning of the end. By the way I was not being sarcastic I was being honest. Sorry if you 2 posters don't like honesty and obviously you 2 are looking for a tussle good luck to you. Maybe you would prefer OP not to have that OP is right to be annoyed with her dp so in a few months time you can say LTB when OP finds her dp has found comfort in a relationship where he is supported. But thank you for your reply non judgemental and very fair

Yabu, he's completely entitled to ask her why.

As I've said, that you all. I appreciate that you've responded. Sometimes I need to give my head a wobble.