OLD, algorithms and matches

[Estherpologist]

I've looked at OLD in the past, while my marriage was falling apart. Although I never got into anything more than a couple of passing conversations, and I never ventured beyond window shopping on the app, it looked like it could be fun.

Now we've actually said we'd divorce, I'm looking at it through different eyes. And it looks like a bottomless black hole of desperation.

I had only really looked at OKC. I quite liked how it seemed to work. Having never met up with anyone on it, I have no idea whether the matches based on algorithms are meaningful.

I know OLD is just a way of meeting people, and you shouldn't expect to meet The One. I assume the algorithms are a reasonable way of weeding out the people you wouldn't want to date. But are they any good at introducing you to people you would want to?

There also seem to be 1000 new OLD sites since I last looked, and OKC doesn't seem to get mentioned as much as it used to. So which algorithms are better / worse? Bumble seems to be popular, but I'm not sure I've got the energy to make the first move all the time.

FWIW I'm early 50s.

I’m your kinda age (and a man ), personally I found bumble was pretty useless ( people probably just didn’t like my pictures profile etc), a few chats but nothing of any note, our time worked better for me (had to send the 1st message all the time), used the search with filters for best results, using the “daily matches “, was useless
Location was biggest issue, I’m semi rural, so quiet limited potential without putting in bigger distances

I'm early 50s and old, too, so am watching with interest. I had thought Our Time was full of fake profiles or not many actual profiles, anyhow...but it sounds like I'm wrong, @HowlongWillThisTakeNow... I might join.

I have tried bumble, @Estherpologist, and I think irs worth a go. However, I recently matched with three men and messaged each, then didn't receive a reply from any of them...boo! I think the thing with swiping sites like bumble and tinder is that (if you're like me), you're busy so I will swipe for quite a long time, maybe half an hour in one go but rarely. Then suddenly you get lots of matches and it's hard to have a meaningful conversation with one guy. I'm going to try to just swipe more often but little at a time (not that I often act swipe right!!). I might also recommend match...its got a lot of the same people on but something about the layout means I can chat in a more focused way.

Bumble is the best one.

@Toffeepieandcream, there were a few fake female profiles on there, but can’t can’t comment on the male ones, but met some nice ppl, had some decent dates,