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Went on first date yesterday and…

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Jolene93 · 27/02/2022 08:53

Had a first date yesterday with a guy I initially started talking to from Tinder, we swapped numbers and got talking for the past two weeks & met yesterday.. had the loveliest time and he asked me out on a second date, however when the date came to an end he hugged me goodbye and that was it, then ran to get his train.. I was slightly disappointed at that, as it went so well and we’ve been in constant communication before the date, I thought it’d at least end with a kiss 😂😂

Is this bad?

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OhMygodddd · 27/02/2022 08:55

No not bad at all, you will get a kiss on the second date I imagine, he was probably trying to be a gentleman….and catch his train

Inthesameboatatmo · 27/02/2022 08:56

Don't over think it op . If you go on a second date you will probably get a kiss.

Milomonster · 27/02/2022 08:56

Wait for second. Date sounds lovely!!

NorthGirlie · 27/02/2022 08:58

I had the opposite - a man who wanted me in bed on the first date! He offered a second date but I suggested cinema and a meal. He stopped contact!!
I’d much prefer a gentleman like yours! He sounds nice - see how it goes!

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Jolene93 · 27/02/2022 09:11

@OhMygodddd @Inthesameboatatmo @Milomonster @NorthGirlie oh thank you all so much I feel better now, what lovely comments too 🥺🥰

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Milomonster · 27/02/2022 09:40

Keep us posted on the second date! When is it?

Marineboy67 · 27/02/2022 09:51

I did OLD for a couple of years and only hugged or 'cheeked' on a first dare. One woman just shook hands like it was a business meeting! Nothing untoward about that and nothing worse than being to forwards either.

wingscrow · 27/02/2022 10:03

I would not kiss a stranger I have just had a first meeting with.

When I do OLD I never consider the first face to face interaction as a proper date. It is just an opportunity to have a chat and get to know each other.

I am not into casual sex either so I date it is only for long term prospects. Anyone who tries to kiss me or who makes sexual comments at the first meeting is off the list.

I think this guy is just being a gent.

JellybabyGina87 · 27/02/2022 10:09

When I was dating I always liked a snog to see if the spark was there. I only gave them a peck on the cheek if I didn't really fancy them. That's not to say he doesn't fancy you, he may have been shy or not known if you would like a kiss so he was being careful. Would you say the date was flirtatious or was it a bit uptight?

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Jolene93 · 27/02/2022 10:11

@Milomonster whenever I’m next child-free we’re gonna meet again :)

@JellybabyGina87 no not uptight at all! Just really natural and funny as it had been over texting/calls :)

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Flyinggeese1234 · 27/02/2022 14:55

Sounds perfect OP.

junglejane66 · 27/02/2022 15:09

Only kiss on a first date if the can show a negative LFT and evidence, who said romance is dead?

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Jolene93 · 27/02/2022 15:32

@Flyinggeese1234 🥺 I know right?
@junglejane66 😂😂

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Pinkbonbon · 27/02/2022 15:36

Sounds fine to me.
If it had been the second date I might have been a bit annoyed as I'd want to know there was chemistry before a third date. But I think it's best when date one is just friendly tbh.

WatieKatie · 27/02/2022 16:06

I think since Covid people are far more aware of personal space.

Has he messaged since the date? If so that’s a better indication of how keen he is.

NorthGirlie · 27/02/2022 18:31

@Jolene93
Let us know how the second date goes!

BabyTurtIe · 27/02/2022 20:14

I think I would prefer that but then I don’t like to kiss on the first date

Lolabray · 27/02/2022 21:11

I actually think he was being quite respectful. Unlike the tinder swindler now he’s another story

aurynne · 27/02/2022 21:31

Are there really so many people around who would kiss a total stranger? I really don't feel comfortable to kiss a person until I know a bit about them, see how they behave in different situations, see them with their friends...

Having said that, that's probably why OLD never works for me...

Pinkbonbon · 27/02/2022 22:31

Hmm i think I'd want to know they weren't a washing machine kisser or some similar shit before spending my time meeting their friends tbh pp lol

Milomonster · 28/02/2022 07:22

@Pinkbonbon wise words

Inthesameboatatmo · 28/02/2022 07:56

@junglejane66

Only kiss on a first date if the can show a negative LFT and evidence, who said romance is dead?

@junglejanee66. I agree with this as I recently gave a first date covid 🤣

JellybabyGina87 · 01/03/2022 14:49

@aurynne

Having said that, that's probably why OLD never works for me...

If you fancy them and have sexual feelings towards them, why not. It's just a kiss. If you're on a date it's usually because you like them, find them attractive and want to explore further.

aurynne · 02/03/2022 06:56

@JellybabyGina87 a kiss in the mouth takes things to a next level and creates an expectation. I understand this is ok for many people, i am honestly intrigued about how so many others seem able to develop this connection with someone they have just met in such a short period of time.

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