Hi,
First time posting here, never imagined it would be this….
Found out a few weeks ago that my husband had gambled all our savings away and worked out exactly how much he could get away with gambling each month so he can no get found out.
Since then he has blamed me for his gambling due to him being unhappy with the lack of free time he has away from me and our two young children, said he wasn’t prepared for me to deal with our finances and didn’t want to transfer some money each month into our children's account to make up for what was lost as I would have too much control and it wasn’t the children’s money that was lost in the first place anyway.
I thought maybe we could get over it when it was just the money, even though it was tens of thousands, but taking no real responsibility for this or trying to put it right has really really got to me.
I’m not really sure what I want from this, mainly to vent I guess. Am I expecting too much or is this really selfish behaviour??? He has very little to do with the children, mainly due to his long hours but my eldest is starting to become aware of the arguments and night and the atmosphere, I don’t want to split my family up but at the same time I really resent him right now.