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I don’t know what to do anymore....feel lost!

7 replies

Olive0901 · 26/02/2022 18:41

I’ve been with my husband for 6 years and married for 3, he works away during the week and is only at home weekends or holidays.
The past few weekends he hasn’t been home as he has had to work and to be honest I really enjoyed him not being here and this may sound terrible but I have been dreading him coming home this weekend.
Most weekends are the same when he home he will either have his son from a previous relationship all weekend or go out drinking. The weekends he hasn’t been home have been a breath of fresh air as I’ve not had to pick up after them both or put up with him being drunk.
I do think about leaving but I can’t afford it at the moment. This weekend he has his son and I have just felt belittled the whole weekend. I noticed he bought some beers for tonight so made a joke that he would have a sore head in the morning and I just got talked down too and accused of moaning so I have spent the whole day in my bedroom out the way. Even if we were speaking the living room gets taken over with what they want to watch on tv and if I put anything on they talk all over it.
I’ve just really had enough and never felt so miserable in my whole life. I don’t even have any close friends to talk to anymore.

OP posts:
Mummytobe93 · 26/02/2022 18:59

How come you can’t afford to leave at the moment? You need to find a way OP, you can’t spend a whole day in a bedroom to be out of the way! It’s not a way to live …

How much ties you to this man? Do you own the house?

KeepingAnOpenMind · 26/02/2022 19:01

I hope you can leave this awful man.

Olive0901 · 26/02/2022 19:09

I have no money saved. My job is ok but by the time I’ve paid my half of the rent and bills and food plus my own things (credit cards etc...) I’m not really left with much. I’m trying to save but it’s hard.

OP posts:
RandomMess · 26/02/2022 19:39

Does he earn more than you?

Olive0901 · 26/02/2022 20:06

Yes he does.

OP posts:
RandomMess · 26/02/2022 20:47

Some marriage where you have to pay 50:50 when he earns more.

Tell him you need to repay your debts and can't afford 50% anymore.

RandomMess · 26/02/2022 20:48

It would be more reasonable if you were paying proportional to your income.

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