Opinions Please

[olddater]

I'm on a dating app and having no luck getting dates. It seems to be just chat and then men disappearing.

I was chatting to a man who lives quite far away. He offered to meet for a drink and it will take him an hour to drive to my town. He said he doesn't mind. I suggested we have a phone call to see if we get on and then arrange meeting up. I don't want him to waste his time if we don't get on.

I've met up with a couple of men who live quite far away in the past and hadn't really got much in common with them. I then found it difficult to make excuses and leave after one drink.

Do you think this was too full on of me or off putting because he's now gone quiet and hasn't rung me? The distance wouldn't be a problem if we wanted to date as I would be content seeing someone once a week and meeting them half way.

He wanted to see what you look like in real life.

It's more than likely he's communicating with others and therefore his attention is greatly diluted.

Meet and prepare a conversation if you feel you haven't clicked.

Finish your drink, say something along the lines of you've enjoyed the afternoon but you need to get going, thanks for meeting, it's been nice to meet you etc

I’ve found lots of men just want to chat, meet up never happens

@Feelingsadtonight - I thought that was just my experience. Thanks for your response.

Some men don't like to date or be recognised in their area. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

@countrylady2 - I have found this!

@Lilypresto - yes probably true