How to win back an ex

[Chloeuk1979]

Hi,
About 6 weeks ago my boyfriend ended our relationship and moved in with a new woman. I think it was a grass is greener situation.
I immediately stopped messaging him. He has since been over twice asking to be friends and on the second occasion tried to hug me.
Recently we messaged and he's desperate to meet up. He opened up emotionally by texting and said how depressed He is with work and life in general. He is still living with the woman but didn't mention her.
I feel that he wants me as an emotional support and wants to be friends as we've been together 6 years and he probably doesn't want to lose me altogether.
Today I messaged its over, I cannot be friends as I still have feelings. I said goodbye, I need time to heal and start a new chapter in my life.
What do you think will happen? Is there any hope?

Or should I have remained friends to cause the new woman to be paranoid and show him what he's missing?
Thank you

He left you. He's living with another woman. You say he's a liar. You said he can't be loyal.

He's unhappy - not your problem. Block his number, have nothing at all to do with him. He's a user.

@TheSpecialist

Ps. Don’t listen to the “block him” crowd. We evolved from the pond a long time ago. Sara happen when communication halts.

You just need time. Once you have that you might decide that you never want to see him again but I’m a firm believer that bridges should never be burned forever.

Cripes. What’s happened in your life that you believe a man who does this is anything more than the equivalent of chewing gum on the bottom of OP’s shoe?

She’s not burning bridges, she’s protecting herself from being hurt by this scumbag ever again. What he did to her is unforgivable.

He's living with another woman still. While this is the case no good will come of you talking to and hugging etc him. Your last para is telling, what you said about destabilising his relationship with her. All this shows is that you're willing to engage in being played off against someone else.

Best to go no contact and work on enjoying yourself. If someone ended things for other reasons and came back I might consider it. Not if they went straight off to someone else.

Oh OP its a really painful situation, especially as you cant switch your feelings off straight away.
But and I know this is really going to hurt, sadly you need to realise and fully feel that he abandoned you for someone else. The rejection is awful, but that is the fact.
Feel it, get angry, go no contact and realise he done you a favour.
You can play the pick me dance, go all out to keep him so at not to feel the rejection, or decide you do not want him anymore and cut him loose for good.
If you 'win' him back (cos he such a prize 🙄) you are basically saying to him, do what you want to me, treat me like dirt and I will still take you back again and again.
Going no contact if he crawls back, chances are you would have moved on by then anyway, win win.
Surround yourself with friends have a big cry

Block him on eerything completely.

Ps. Don’t listen to the “block him” crowd.

He cheated on @Chloeuk1979 and moved in with another woman. He's an arsehole who hurt her and can't be trusted.

I think the block him crowd are winning.
Certainly things aren't working out for him in life. That is my revenge, i just need to sit back and watch

@TheSpecialist

Ps. Don’t listen to the “block him” crowd. We evolved from the pond a long time ago. Sara happen when communication halts.

You just need time. Once you have that you might decide that you never want to see him again but I’m a firm believer that bridges should never be burned forever.

Yes, I agree. Don't listen to all us idiotic women who value our own worth and have self-respect. You hang on in there and see what happens...🙄🙄🙄

He came back because you ignored him.

If you get back together he'll piss you about.

Keep on ignoring him. Block his number.

You will get over him if you block him if you let him back, you won't

He comes back when you ignore him because he likes having you as a back up plan to boost his ego.

Block and move on

The clue is in the actual wording, you can't get over an Ex until the relationship is trult over !

Asking to be best buddies, and demanding your time, to make him feel bloody 'better' , and hugging you etc isn't allowing the 'relationship' to end, and be 'over', it's simply 'changing the goalposts' a bit FFS

It's allowing HIM to screw someone else, while YOU make HIM 'feel better', and he keeps YOU in 'reserve' just in case he 'changes his bloody mind' !!

In what weird bloody universe is that ever going to help you ????

And who the hell does HE think he IS ?? (Cos I'm assuming he ain't a Chris Hemsworth or a Jason Momoa !!)

You did the right thing.

He's just going to piss you about.

Stop thinking about him and start thinking about yourself. Yes 6 years is a long time but clearly that didn't matter to him. You can do better. Don't be manipulated into taking someone back who threw you aside so easily.

@dieblauenStrumpfhosen

Never let a man tell you he doesn't want you twice.

Wish I had seen this a few years ago!