I drop my son off at the school, he's my first so it is all very new to me.
In September I met a lovely mum. We became friends and she's invited me over to her house for tea. I went over and we had a good chat and opened up about a lot of things.
But she is a very busy mum who has 4 other children so she is usually in a rush and we usually meet at school pickups and have a chat.
A couple of months later my son became really good friends with another boy and because theyd come out of the school gates together me and his mum began chatting. Again another friendship was building which was great she told me to meet her for a drink or to go to her house. One weekend I wad freed up a bit so I asked her to come over with her son and have some tea. But she said she was tied down so she invited me to hers so I said OK il come over. I went over again a chat, coffee etc. I met her partner briefly too.
Now I feel that she got a bit too comfortable with me. She's began telling my son what to do. For example once after the pick up he was within sight and definitely not doing anything dangerous but he was climbing. Which I don't mind. She then said 'sons name' don't do that ul fall. I was actually gob smacked. I said to her hey its alright I'm cool with it. My son had already listened and got down. I felt quite irritated. Another time my son fell over she went running leaving her own child behind like superwoman to rescue him. I was like relax woman I'm on my way he's okay. He then came to me and i gave him a cuddle. Again it left me feeling a bit uneasy.
She's also done a few other irritating things.
But today my friend that I had met first(mum 1) and this friend (mum2) were having a chat and I thought oh great they've met. I was late and rushing so I got out of car with my son and mum 1 was really happy to see me, mum 2 didn't look my way until I was right near her and she was like hey and just continued her conversation. I rushed to the school and on the way back mum 1 and mum 2 were still chatting away. I suddenly felt like I was invading in their convo but mum 1 made me feel welcome and started telling me what they were chatting about mum 2 was a bit off but just gave some tight smiles. I felt like I had to leave so I did. I said iv got something to do. I felt very left out. As mum 2 gave me little eye contact and was just chatting to mum 1. I know they're not close as mum 1 doesn't have any time for other mums apart from the 1 time she invited me and mum 2 has referred to her as that woman so she doesn't even know her name. Anyway I ran off.
With the build of mum 2 and her behaviours I feel awful as our kids are good friends but does anyone else find this odd? And how do u deal with this? I try to avoid her but I just can't. Anyone got any advice.?