My boyfriends been offered councilling today through a charity. His heads a mess and it has been hard work. I met him when he was on a road to recovery after alcohol dependency. He's a lovely man. Broken from traumas. Hard working. Always tries but has had with abit of difficulty this last year. His landlords are selling the house. He's currently out of work. His car was crashed into by an artic lorry in September and that company wriggled out of the claim and he's now waiting for the ombudsman to help which could take weeks.
His heads still allover the place from the past. His dad. His ex. His old life. He's often looking back over old photos and memories.
I am fully supportive and so relieved He's getting some help. I hope it will help him clear his head out. But I'm a little bit anxious about him having to go back and think even more about the past. Particularly with his ex. He doesn't seem to know how to fully get over the emotions regarding the split. She's abit of a pain in the neck. She messes with his head. She will message him and say how are you. Then she will try and pick fault in me. Or ask him about a person she's noticed liked his latest picture of Facebook. Because she helped him when he was drinking he feels he wants to remain friends with her because he caused alot of hurt. But he also will say he can't forgive her for what she did but likes her for what she did for him.
I'm worried this could actually set him back focusing on that relationship instead of us and going forward. I'm trying to prepare myself that him mindset could change due to bringing up old memories.
Can anyone advise me.