(Sorry long post) I invited my friend over last night as she rang me in tears. My DH is away with work at the moment, but I had 2 out of my 3 adult kids in the house (in their rooms) she arrived crying and smelling like she’d had a drink (I was completely sober) she said she was really upset as it was her cousins funeral (we both live in a different country to where we were born) and she’d had a row with her DH as he was ‘unemotional and cold’ about the situation. I’ve met him, and that’s quite a fair description of him in general. She proceeded to drink another bottle of wine - I told her to slow diwn tried to get her to eat etc, but she was having none of it. She got more emotional the more she drank. Then she made a pass at me. She kept insisting she wanted a ‘proper kiss’ off me, and kept counting down saying ‘when I get to zero you’ve got to do it’ I kept telling her no, and that I loved her as a friend but nothing else (I’ve been happily narrued for 22 years) but she became quite forceful and insistent. I told her that it was time to go home. I had to get my oldest son to help me get her in my car (she wanted to drive her own car and struggled with me over that) on the way to her house she was trying to feel my legs, boobs and was pulling my hair. It was horrendous. I was trying to distract her, and obviously pushing her hands away. When I got her home, I had to bang on the door to get her husband up, then we both had to help her get in the house. I sent her a message later explaining that what she’d done was not on, that I was really upset, and she needed to get help with her actions and drinking. I said it was coming from a place of friendship, that I obviously understood she was emotional, but that was never an excuse for that kind of behaviour. She saw the message in the morning and replied that she was ‘sorry’ but had ‘no recollection’ of what had happened. I’m just not sure I can carry on with the friendship if she can’t take any responsibility. For context approx 3 months ago a friend told me that she had been ousted from their group for behaving really badly (including sexual overtones) on a day trip involving drink. I’ve known my friend for 8 years and never seen anything like this from her so tbh I pretty much dismissed it. When I was 6 I was sexually assaulted by an older girl known to my family, so this experience has really affected me. However, the other thing that really bothers me is that I’ve been hit in by other women known to me whilst we’ve been out/they’ve been drunk (I don’t really drink much) and now after this experience I’m really starting to think it’s my fault? I’ve never fancied women, never been even curious. I have a very happy fulfilled marriage. Am I giving off the wrong signals, am I ‘too nice’ am I seen as a ‘pushover’ I’m just so upset and completely confused.