BF acting weird.

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For the past few days my boyfriend has been acting odd and won't message me in the evenings.
He's always been a slow at messaging which isn't a problem we all have lives.
But the fact he stops speaking to me at 5/6pm and doesn't message until the morning is worrying me.
Am I being dramatic or do I worry he's entertaining someone else?
It's just weird he's never done this before in our whole relationship.
KIND words please.

He definitely is seeing someone else is my bet, sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

How long have you been together?

What does he say he’s doing in the evening?

Does he just ignore your messages until the morning then? I'd say in the morning when he messages, please call me this evening and leave it at that.

Is he a gamer?

I'd stop texting.

Yes gaming could be his thing. He might even have friends and family around or simply having a shower and getting some dinner. A poo even.
He might find your constant texting disruptive and possibly annoying. So just leave him to it. Maybe he's just not as available as you'd like him to be.

What happens if you ring/facetime him?

Ask him why?

Have you asked him before asking us? If not, you have a different issue than you think, which is worse than him not contacting you in the evenings.

If you can't tell him how you feel and ask him why his contact pattern has changed, how close do you feel you are?

How often do you see him? how does he act when you are with him?

I don't understand why we moved to a world where so much of relationship are conducted via and analysed based on text messages...

If you hardly see each other and most of the interaction is messages/virtual, is he really your boyfriend?

To me a real partner is someone you see frequently and do things with. Not a text buddy.

Sounds like he is just someone you have been casually dating who has now lost interests and who is spending his free time with other people, friends or other women.

The fact that he has always been 'slow at messaging' anyway shows that you are seeing much more in this relationship than he ever has.

This is not the behaviour of a man who is into you and you have never been his priority.

I'd assume he's gaming or his wife has got suspicious about him being on his phone all the time.

Well, if it's the past few days and he's not a prolific texter anyway, what do YOU think, given that you know him better than any stranger on MN?

Has he got a lot on at work? Is he very tired? Are there any situations with his friends or family that are taking up a lot of his mental energy? Could he be coming down with something?

Maybe he genuinely finds your messaging too much and is trying, in a rather clunky way, to wean you off the habit by putting some boundaries in place.

Honestly, the simplest answer is normally the correct one. MN's habit of going from 0-60mph on these things is ridiculous.

Do you message on WhatsApp? Does he show up online? What happens if you try and call him?

@girlmom21

I'd assume he's gaming or his wife has got suspicious about him being on his phone all the time.

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