Don’t wanna put DP down

[liverpool122]

Long story short I’m suffering from work burnout at the moment and spend all my time away from work shattered, stressed and have no energy to really do anything else. I’m lost about my future career and I’m so stressed.

DP is so lovely. He’s so supportive, listens to everything I say and has my back everytime, always attempting to cheer me up.

I just really worry that I’m going to bring him down with all of this if it carries on. I’ve spoke about it all with him and he completely understands, and I lack the energy to talk about or do anything else at the moment. I’m looking for a new job by my notice period is fairly long so yeah. What should I do?

I think when you're supporting someone who is suffering (whether that's a health issue, work issue or whatever), a few things really make a difference-

• Make sure he knows you appreciate his support
• Make sure he knows you would do the same for him (and follow through on that when it's needed)
• Remember that just because you are suffering, doesn't mean he can't have bad days or things that worry him. Make sure the support isn't all one way.
• Seek all the professional help you can, so you stand the best possible chance of recovery, and he can see you're doing your best, and it isn't all on him to be supportive.
• Encourage him to do things he enjoys so he can have fun and recharge.
• Take all the practical steps you can to make your life better (like applying for another job, which you're trying to do)
• Remind both of you this is temporary. Talk about your future and plan lovely things - even if you can only talk about them right now.

You say you are suffering burn out from work- is there an element of depression at all? Because your dh is supporting you and nothing you say seems to indicate he's unhappy , but you are projecting your "negativity " upon him and worrying it'll bring him down? You're already worried and stressed in your work and now you are also worrying your dh may be influenced and brought down at home- it seems from the little I've read that you are unhappy, and deeply insecure and your dh hasn't done anything to suggest he feels the same. But when we are depressed or burnt out we assume everyone around us is the same. Misery loves company.

I think the best thing you can do is to seek help from a doctor regarding your burn out whilst also continuing to seek better work life prospects. All the best to you op