How long after a marriage breakup did you start another relationship?

[user72618811]

Just wondered how long after a marriage break up did you start another relationship?

4 1/2 years 🤷‍♀️

It's been 8 years. Never going there again 🤷🏻‍♀️

2 years / 6 years / decree absolute. The worse the marriage, the shorter the interval for me.

Six weeks

About 1.5 years - a relationship was defo not on the plan (I was married over 20 years before I caught him cheating), it was completely out of the blue!

Worried about my sister, she was married for 14 years (age 20 getting married) split from her husband 5 months ago and has been in relationships with 3 men since then.

12 months. Hilarious and awful first date in equal measures. I did find out how much my DDs knew about safe sex because they gave me the ‘talk’ before I went my first date. Their faces when I’d let them finish then announced that I hadn’t shaved my legs and I had no intention of having sex on a first date.

I met my now DH a year later, but I did have some fun adventures between him and that first date

Sounds like your DSis is just trying to make up for lost time. Her marriage may have been failing for longer than you realise and she is more over the split than you realise.

I wasn’t married but I’ve been single 5 years now, I feel like some kind of weirdo as everyone else seems to meet someone else very quickly!

@MachineBee

Sounds like your DSis is just trying to make up for lost time. Her marriage may have been failing for longer than you realise and she is more over the split than you realise.

@MachineBee I agree I think she is making up for lost time and that the marriage had been failing for a while. She just gets down when the relationship ends and then rushes out to find another man. She has two DD 12 and 13 I just worry how this will affect them, seeing their mum with different men in a short space of time.

I'm not ready yet and it's been 8 months post the split. My ex is already remarried.

Has she been introducing these men to her daughters? That’s not on, if that’s the case. Otherwise unless you think she’s putting herself in danger let her crack on. I was in a sexless marriage for nearly 5 years before we finally called it quits, I was willing to shag anything at that point.

@user72618811

Worried about my sister, she was married for 14 years (age 20 getting married) split from her husband 5 months ago and has been in relationships with 3 men since then.

Is that why they split?

Agree with PP - that she needs to be more discreet with DDs that age. And it’s important she maintains the parental relationship with them and resists the temptation to treat them like girlfriends.

@PossiblyDreaming

Has she been introducing these men to her daughters? That’s not on, if that’s the case. Otherwise unless you think she’s putting herself in danger let her crack on. I was in a sexless marriage for nearly 5 years before we finally called it quits, I was willing to shag anything at that point.

@PossiblyDreaming She is introducing them. I know they have met two of them. They don't see their dad so are with my sister all the time. She lives away so has no one near. If I lived closer I would have the girls at the weekend so they don't have to meet them. The last guy she was with had 2 children of his own, the children were all introduced to each other within a week of meeting him. He stayed over. The relationship only lasted a month.

I think she is putting her own selfish needs before her children. I’ve been single 9 months after a 18.5 relationship, I purposely haven’t brought anyone into my life or there’s as I feel it’s far too soon. There Father on the other hand was with someone within 7 weeks. I would certainly be telling her straight!