My boyfriend of 2 years has shown on a few occasions he's not cut off people he used to sleep with.
It's an instinctive thing to do when I enter a new relationship, and have done so.
Here's the instances -
5 months in a girl from the past was messaging him whilst we were on a romantic weekend away. The trip actually ended with me in hospital after severe cystitis. He messaged her on and off - some of her messages would come at 3am... and I confronted him. He lied that she was a friend from uni, but I now have the truth that it's a girl he once met in a bar. He has since blocked / deleted unfollowed / cut contact. That I can deal with - everyone can slip up.
Anyway... fast forward...
15 months in we were away with friends. There were Instagram messages appearing on his phone whilst he was in the shower from two other girls
Girl 1) an old flame - was asking how I (his girlfriend) is, to which he completely failed to answer in his reply. She has lots of scantily clad pics on her profile and his response was something along the lines of "didn't think you'd want to follow me given the distinct lack of bikini content". I feel sick reliving this, but bear with me...
Girl 2) another old flame - sending him pictures of her IN HER WEDDING DRESS to which she wrote "any plans to marry?" And his response was "no plans... come visit?".
Again, confronted and told both were blocked.
Is the guy thick? Today his iPad rang with a Turkish number (girl 2 is Turkish) and so I looked for her name on his iPad. He has kept her details under a male pseudonym and I am just dumbfounded.
I need some confidence, advice, etc., please be kind.. my self esteem is on the floor right now.
How do we fix this?
Thank you