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Is it me

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7starlight5 · 23/02/2022 10:01

Hi, so after opinions. I've been with my husband for 17 years..with been an awful lot in this time but are still together, we had a heart to heart at the start of the year were we both opened up about stuff, fo me a lot of thr arguments that had developed between us was due to past hurts that I hadn't moved past, however I really felt he heard me on this occasion and that this was truly a fresh start..we had talked about the big stuff but also the little things that i tended to hold on to over time that then turned into a massive row. All was going really well until this weekend again he has told me he is going ro his parents home for a visit, invites our kids...I mean asks them "do u fancy going to nans" and then as they are getting ready..putting coats on, he then says to me did you want to come.

Am I being really petty? This was one of my gripes was that I don't feel included, that he literally treats me as an add on..a last minute thought and it really upsets me, he apologies and says he didn't think..but a few weeks later he does a similar thing again and we are back to arguing.

For me it's not the actual visit it really is the feeling I get of not being part of our family.

Am I over reacting?

Thanks

OP posts:
Watchkeys · 23/02/2022 10:11

Yes, it's you. Do you think that because it's you, because it's your feelings, that the problem should be dismissed/disregarded?

Don't be thinking that if 'it's you', it isn't important. For you, you is the most important person. Until you look after you, and respect your feelings, you can't expect to be happy.

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