Hey, I have posted here many times. Please be gentle and do not flame me. I am trying to get out of a marriage.
My husband has had poor MH for 3 years. It has improved a lot. We are in very intense marriage Councilling.
The last 2 days we were away for half term with out children to a theme park. I admit my mood was not great. We bickered a lot. at the end of the theme park we were making our way home on the motorway its 3-4 hours journey.
Our argument which was about a trivial matter imo escalated. I said that when we got home he should stay with his parents, he said no way am I leaving the house and I said well I am not (I have no family in this country- his parents live 7 mins away)... He ended up saying he would never leave the house and his parents had paid for it (we are married, have always contributed and paid the mortgage on my own last year or two). . . None of this is relevant really because what happened next was he start to drive insanely fast, I was crying and saying please stop you are scaring me, I immediately said you can have the house etc etc.
Thankfully my kids were asleep.... then he said he just wanted to get out of the car and get away. We are 3 hours from home and approaching the motorway. he said he would kill himself and im not sure he used the words that he would kill us but I was in fear of my life with his driving. My phone was dead. I tried to grab his off the sat nav to call the police and he snatched it. He pulled over at a roundabout junction. Got out and threw the keys at me. I had to get out of my side. walk around hysterical. kids awake crying and move the car. I drive to the closest place to pull over a shell garage, bought a car phone charger. It would not work. So I went into the shop and asked to use their phone. I called 999 as I thought he was going to throw himself off a bridge. kids are bawling crying and I am trying to reassure them but also hiding making the call as I don't want them to hear so had to lock them in car and watch from the shop window.
Police find him and bring him back, they are worried for our safety etc. We make an agreement I will drive him home but we won't talk in the car. As soon as the police leave and we are set to go he asks me to pull over so he can discuss things. I again beg him no. I say look its really late we need to leave now.
Im really clear he can not stay here.He says on way home he's looking for hotel but there are none. Not true. I say I will drop to his parents. About 2 mins from his parents. He opens Car door and get out. Again.
I sent him a text and say are you safe, if you don't reply im calling the police again. He said he was. Got home got kids into bed and now im here and I have no fucking clue what next.
I am trying to get both kids into childcare tomorrow so I can think straight. I have a professional job, do I call in sick? What reason do I give?
What do I do next? How do I keep my kids safe and out of this drama? Is he a danger, I don't honestly think so but at the same time I do feel anxious. If I say he cant see the kids he will freak out.
I have no parents, no family here. I have good friends but I cant run away.
What do I do?