Change my number?

[RedCandyApple]

I have children with my ex, he hasn’t seen them in over a year, recently I’ve wanted to change my number (not because of him, for other reasons) but I don’t plan on updating him or giving him the number as we are not in contact, just for a bit of back ground we split up 5 years ago and he’s seen them about 3/4 occasions in that time. I’ve been told that I should send him a text with my email incase he wants to contact me, not sure why I should do that when we have no contact? Someone even suggested checking the email every night to see if he’s messaged 🤦🏻 Or being told that it would look bad on me if he ever took me to court (he wouldn’t so not concerned about that) he has my home address so is able to contact me if he ever decided to in the future. So is it fair for me to change my number?

It’s fine
He doesn’t seem part of your lives

No he isn’t, hasn’t asked to see or speak to them in over a year so not sure why I need to inform him of things but apparently I should to “cover my back”

He’s obviously not bothered about you or the dc. Change away.
Would be interesting if he did ever take anything to court him explaining to the judge he likely notices the change months or even years after your number change. Would look way worse on him!
Especially as he knows your address, so can contact anytime via post or in person.

Yes I really hate when people say “it will make you look bad in court” how will it make ME look bad that he hasn’t seen or spoken to our children in over a year

Sod that! You owe him nothing. A good father does go a year with no contact. Get shot

Doesn't **

How would anyone know it wasn't just a case of your phone breaking so you got a new one?

It's fine. Its not like you're playing to move out of the country and changed your names lol.

You don't owe him shit. He hasn't been in contact (so he will have nothing to show that he has) through his own choice.

What idiots are telling you you need to accommodate the wanker? Because I'd put serious thought as to why you want people like that in your life.

In he unlikely event he ever did kick off about it, you can just say that you did send it to him and he must have deleted the message by mistake?

Who are these people, cause they’re giving you pretty stupid advice.

No one I know personally thankfully but I posted on a single parents Facebook group, the comments I got were pretty much

“Does he have any other way of contacting you, like email? If not you should make sure he does before changing it”

“Why not get a cheap phone and keep your old number in it so he can still contact you”

“I would set up an email address and send it to him and check it every night when the kids are in bed”

“I would get a phone with 2 sims so you can keep the number”

“If you change your number and he doesn’t have a way to contact you it will go against you if he took you to court, even him having your address isn’t enough as he could say he wasn’t comfortable just showing up”

Honestly like I am meant to tip toe around him for the rest of my life?

Lol took you to court xD aha haha. Aye cause I'm sure he absolutely wants wahy, full custody of his children after not seeing them for 5 years? Lol. As for not just showing up...there used to be this thing called...what was it again...oh yeah- a letter!

Pft.. ppl are awful fear merchants sometimes lol.

That’s what I said,
I’m not suggesting he turns up! He can write a letter (I know they are old fashioned now but they are still a thing 😬)