I have been with my fiancé for over 15 years (since we was both 16 years old), we had a few small breaks early on in the relationship but for the last 12 or so years we have been happy, until last year.. I sadly lost my mum and she was like a mum to my fiancé too, so the loss has really hit us hard.
In January he told me he wasn't happy anymore and felt like we needed to split up, we talked and decided to see how things went for a few weeks with us both making an effort in our relationship. Everything actually got better and I felt like we was back to how we was but my fiancé has said while he agrees things have been better he doesn't think it will last and we will be back to being unhappy again. On Friday night he told me he couldn't keep trying BUT an hour later I walked into the front room to see he had cut himself. He keeps telling me he is fine and that it was a one off, that he was drunk and he isn't suicidal. I just don't understand where his head is at and I am hoping a bit of time apart from each other will help him.
I keep telling him he needs to speak to someone about his depression, but he keeps saying he doesn't want to talk to anyone and doesn't want to be put on anti-depressants. I am moving out at the weekend and he is going to move in a few weeks to his own place. Our plan originally was to move out and live separately for a bit but stay together, however, he wants a full break from each other which I understand.
Has anyone else been in this situation were their partner is depressed and wanting to end things? Does anyone think a break will help us or more importantly help him? I am so worried about him and just want him to be happy regardless if that's with me or not.