potential 2nd date

[jamestaylor23]

I met a lovely woman for a first date on Saturday. It turned out to be really great with instant chemistry, flirting, touching and laughing the whole way through. Straight after the date she text me to mention having a nice time which was a good sign things went well.

I want to setup the second date however from my brief experience of texting her she doesn't reply much at all. Prior to the first date she didn't respond for a few days and gave short answers so I had to reach out to her to reconfirm its still on.

The last two texts I sent her were more statements/banter about the date and not asking any questions..I wanted to wait for her to reply before moving things forward however I haven't heard back yet.

Worst case scenario if she doesn't reply do you think there's any way around this without being needy? triple texting/following up with the date proposal seems a bit silly at this point and same with calling her..

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Thanks for any help provided

There's no need to arse about on waiting turns to message. If you want to see her again tell her. I'm wondering if there might be a cultural thing as she doesn't sound as if English is her first language?

Yeah I agree completely. Usually I'd send only 1-2 messages after the first and then go in and ask for the second date. I mainly use texting for setting up dates...Its just in this case I've sent her 2 messages now with no prompt/questions to follow up with and I don't want to come off needy by overly texting her when she hasn't replied.

She's Chinese but been in the UK since she was 18 yrs old (Now 31)

Maybe that explains it? Seriously just ask her. Good luck.

you don't think the triple texting is begging it a bit?

All this texting etiquette do's/dont's is a bit of a headache

Worst case scenario if she doesn't reply do you think there's any way around this without being needy

Neediness isn't a problem in a healthy relationship. Your partner will respond to your needs in a way that feels right to you both if you're compatible. If you're worried about appearing 'needy' after just one date, I'd be ruling her out. Fancying each other isn't enough, unless you're just after sex. If you want a relationship, you need to find someone who makes you smile when you're together, and who you feel smiley about when you're apart. Rather than someone who triggers your anxieties, like this one does.

@jamestaylor23

you don't think the triple texting is begging it a bit?

All this texting etiquette do's/dont's is a bit of a headache

No - from the texts you attached you seem to have some really nice rapport going on. She likes you, She's just waiting for you to be the one to ask for the second date, I reckon.

And if I reckon wrong - so what? At least you'll know where you stand.
You need to find out sooner or later if you are going to see each other again, so get stuck in & don't prolong the agony.

Just set up the date.
Lots of people don't much like texting. I have a few chinese girl mates and our biggest pet piece when we talk about men is that they often fail to take initiative.

...tbf it is followed by - they cannot take a hint xD

Suggest a date. Something like 'I'm free Saturday, how about we go to that art gallery we were talking about?'.

If she says she can't and makes no attempt to suggest another suitable date, then she is not interested.

*peeve

I should say, I'm not Chinese. Its just how our convos usually go when we hang out haha. But i think it's a girl thing I general tbf.

But because I have dated chinese men too the common complaint we share over a drink is usually that they often aren't as forward as they need to be. So chances are they may prefer Caucasian guys in the hopes that they can take initiative a bit more...and say what they mean. I'm being very stereotyping of course. But it's a common complaint when the guys leave the room xD

If you want a date you must ask her directly. She will conclude you aren't interested if you do not do this.

It doesn’t sound like she wants to continue the conversation based on what you’ve posted there but I do think you should ask her if she wants to meet up again. If it’s no, at least you know.