Is my sister being mugged off ????

[Dizzybrunette445]

My one and only sister (33) is in a relationship with a guy she met through work. He lives 2 hrs away (still does) he was married and supposedly divorced when he got interested in my sister.
They have been together now for about 2-3 years. He seems nice enough.
He comes down to see her a couple times a week stays over at her flat etc takes her out..
He doesn't have any kids (or so he says). He's been on holiday with us once as a whole family for a week. No red flags from what I saw.
Am I unreasonable to be thinking why the heck is he still living that far away of there's nothing stopping him moving into her flat if they've been together that long and 'love' eachother ? Apparently he's living with his brother and his family ???
He always discusses moving down but nothing had materialised. She gets quite defensive about it all, and I think she's just wasting her life away...

Should I just keep my nose out? I wanna shake her and ask her why are you with him lol.

Well you could turn that round and ask why she's never moved to him and if that's a red flag about her?

Maybe they are happy just dating.

Maybe they don't want to live together. It's not the natural progression for everyone. Plus, all his family is back there right? Maybe he doesn't want to move away from them. Maybe they are waiting to decide something career wise before one of them makes a move.

I don't think it's a big deal really. And I can see why your sister would yet defensive about it as it might seem like you are trying to stir shit up.

So he’s always the one to have to make the effort? There can be all sorts of reasons why he doesn’t want to move. None of which are your business.

Do you not believe he's single?
I think this is down to your sister, as long as she's happy.