Sex drive has completely vanished

[Unsername1233]

So I'm just going to jump straight in and hope that someone has advice to resolve this issue OR has gone through something similar. Just for some background information -
I'm a 24 year old woman
1 child
Stopped hormonal birth control in October (not trying for baby, to control anxiety)
Dieting since Christmas
Gym 4 times a week since January
Long term partner, have been together 8 years
Not on any medication

Not under any stress

I have always had a relatively high sex drive, but over the past three months it's literally vanished. I love my partner dearly and still find him attractive but worried he may start to think otherwise.

I have completely lost all interest in anything sexual (including any alone moments). I almost feel numb to it. The past couple of times we have tried I'm just not fully into it and although I can reach an orgasam it's half the intensity of one I would normally have - I guess I just can't get fully there.

I keep thinking I will return to normal but as each week passes I'm growing more concerned, I have no idea what's going on with my body and wondering it it was linked to stopping the pill? I was on the pill for 9 years and it's now been 4.5 months without it - is this the norm for me now?

Any advice or similar experiences would really be appreciated.

I suggest talking to your GP so they can check for any physical reason.

That seems very odd and your age and situation. I agree with speaking to your GP.

The pill always killed off my sex drive but I suppose for some it might have the opposite effect?!

Stopped hormonal birth control in October (not trying for baby, to control anxiety)

Given that hormonal changes are often responsible for changes in libido, I'd think this was the likeliest suspect.

I found my libido massively dropped when I came off the Pill but returned when I went onto depo Provera.

When you say you came off it due to anxiety, do you mean that you were anxious about long term use? Or you were suffering from anxiety and your gp suggested stopping a medication which you'd been taking for years without problems in the hope that would help?

I'm getting a bit lost on the timescales - was your DC conceived on the pill?

@layladomino I was contemplating arranging a GP appointment but I don't want to waste anyones time 😬😬

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation Did you find your libido came back naturally? I'm not planning on going back on birth control currently (I've had quite bad generalised anxiety for a couple of years now, I've taken myself of the pill after finding out it can contribute to those anxious feelings). Yes, my little one was conceived on the pill around 6 years ago (Looking back I was just very irresponsible and only used to take it when I remembered ).

See I've seen lots of bits online about loosing libido while taking birth control but can find next to nothing not for stopping.

I would go and see your doctor and talk to him, maybe you are just run down and need some iron or vitamins especially if you are eating less and could just feel tired and all that adds up and could be the reason but think it could be hormonal so please do go to your doctor and sort it out before it becomes a bigger issue. Make sure you are also drinking lots of water and looking after yourself. Am sure you will get it sorted and get the doctor to check your bloods. Hope all gets sorted out.

Has your anxiety improved at all since stopping the pill? Although I note you've been making lifestyle changes for the last couple of months which can also massively help anxiety.

Have you spoken to your GP about any of this?

I stopped depo provera late 2019 as I was into menopause. My libido definitely dipped but menopause was almost certainly a factor there, as was my excessive alcohol consumption at that time. Its taken a couple of years for my libido to return - getting off alcohol was more of a factor, and has also massively improved my anxiety and depression.

I'd definitely get a doctors appointment booked, preferably with a female GP.