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What contact is this father likely to get?

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Harm0ny1 · 19/02/2022 16:04

Am asking, I am completely aware that every situation is different and my solicitor is best advised to inform me.. However, even she is unsure owing to so many twists and turns in our case.
Situation is as follows. DD and I fled domestic abuse nearly 2 years ago now. Child protection and police removed us out of the area and put us in hiding until I could find a private tenancy. Cafcass have been abundantly clear on their viewpoint in that there should be no interim contact until the factual matrix was determined via a fact finding. Findings have been made against the father in that he perpetrated domestic abuse towards both myself and DD. Court also made findings against me that I was physically abusive as I fought back during strangulation.
Father has had supervised contact on and off for 18 months nearly now, cafcass have asked the court twice to suspend this in the interim.
Court have allowed supervised contact to continue.
We are now part way through the section 7 process. I was asked by the cafcass officer if I thought contact should remain supervised. I've been told there's no safe way to progress contact outside of the centre owing to father's violent temper, his stalking behaviour, the fact he does not know where DD and I reside and the fact he's made death threats to me throughout the court process..
We also do not have a suitable third party owing to the fact I will not do handovers with him or any of his family.
I'm just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and can advise what a likely outcome is? Currently he has fortnightly supervised contact for 2 hours with both parents splitting the cost of the contact centre. Cafcass have stated to me that I shouldn't have been made to pay half of the cost.
In one of their correspondences to the court they described DD being a vulnerable child at significant risk of harm if my allegations were found. Those allegations have been found as fact, he continues to lie about the allegations.
Grateful for anyone's experience.

OP posts:
Rewritethestars1 · 19/02/2022 16:13

No one can give advice on this op because its literally down to the court and it varies case by case. As you have seen even with cafcass recommendations he has still be granted contact so its possible he will maintain this. Maybe the finding of facts hearing will change this but who knows. Even in one almost identical case the outcome could be different. There is no way of knowing at this stage.
I'm so sorry you are in this position and have gone through so much. Its easy for me to say try to keep busy and wait for the outcome because its not my dd but unfortunately that is all you can do.
Good luck.

Theunamedcat · 19/02/2022 16:16

I'm sorry but seriously? They found against you because you didn't react well to being strangled? Can an mp help here? This is utterly revolting self defence is not abuse

Mogul · 19/02/2022 18:15

How old is your dd? Will her wants be taken into consideration?

Harm0ny1 · 19/02/2022 18:35

She's 3. Cafcass officer said her wishes and feelings won't be taken into consideration as she's so young.

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rmummyofone · 10/01/2023 20:59

Hi, I know this is an old thread, what was the outcome of this :)

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