My and my H have been through an extremely awful time over the last 5 months. I've left him and we've been no contact for a while. He put me through so much.
We are both in therapy individually.
We started contact again around 3 weeks ago.
In this 3 weeks, although we are not seeing each other on a regular basis, we've been out for coffee and that's about it, I am beginning to see a change in him. He is address issues from his past and childhood and is making huge steps into putting these to bed - and I mean big steps as in taking action with things he should of done years ago.
In the last 3 weeks, he has been nothing put patient with me, not texting me every moment of the day. He's removed himself off social media, had a bit of a gambling problem - self excluded himself.
I have made it clear that I am 100% not going back to him, I have my own place now and I want to carry on living separately. I want my own space, I want to do my own thing which he is supportive of.
I'm very wary of getting close to him again, it's only been a matter of weeks since we have been talking again but I feel I owe it to my marriage to try again. On my own terms, at my own pace. I've wanted him to have therapy for years, now he is and it seems to be doing him good.
Anyone been through anything similar?
Just to add, there was no physical violence. No cheating. Our marriage became very one sided, he put no effort in and just thought about himself. His needs became more important than mine and that's the reason why I left. He was very difficult to talk too.