He plans to move away?

[HMum19]

I have been seeing someone for the past 6 weeks, it's been going really well, it started off quite casual but I can now feel things are becoming a bit more serious in terms of us "seeing eachother". I am definitely beginning to really like him.
Today we got on to a conversation about our goals etc and he said he wants to move away to the city, which is quite far from where we currently live. Said he wants to buy a property in the city and live there. Obviously it's very early days so I just kind of nodded along and said that sounds good etc. I won't lie I was a little bit gutted as now it's like the expiration date has been set on us, do I bother investing myself and potentially falling for someone who doesn't intend to stay around here ☹️

How far?

@myothercarisaskoda

How far?

It's about a 45min-1hr drive. I have a little one though so probably wouldn't be realistic to travel there a lot ☹️

Pull back a bit to guard yourself and see how much effort they put in

How often do you see him at the moment? Why not ask him if he's interested in more than casual?

@myothercarisaskoda I've been seeing him 1-2 times a week, some weeks more. We had a conversation the other day which he initiated where he basically asked what we were and we said we were "seeing eachother" I felt like that was a next step kind of as before it was just more of a hook up 😅

So I take it that you see him when your little one is with their dad at weekends?
If you really like someone and you both drive, isn't it worth making that journey? I did years of dating when I never considered travelling a bit further, I met someone who lived a bit down the motorway and it surprised me how much it didn't bother me because I really liked him and he used to come to me too.
You'll get people on here saying 45-1 hr is nothing! But it's how you feel personally.

He might be more willing to travel to you, you'll have to have a conversation to see if you both want to carry on seeing each other. If neither of you want to put much effort into it then you both feel isn't worth it.

I agree to speaking to him. I know sometimes you can be afraid of sounding heavy, but you've agreed that you're seeing each other so it's not unreasonable to have that conversation. Go for it!