Pregnant but me and my ex have broke up

[MumToBe22]

I'm so worried and cannot stop thinking 💔 my ex and I broke up then 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant, we got back together then broke up around a week ago. Im 13 weeks pregnant now. I've constantly been thinking about encase he sleeps with someone else and then in the future he tries to get back with me.. I don't know what to do. I want to speak to him but I also want to give it time and think about me & the baby. He was also emotionally abusive so I know that it wouldn't be a good idea but I just love him so much and hate him at the same time.

@MumToBe22

I'm so worried and cannot stop thinking 💔 my ex and I broke up then 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant, we got back together then broke up around a week ago. Im 13 weeks pregnant now. I've constantly been thinking about encase he sleeps with someone else and then in the future he tries to get back with me.. I don't know what to do. I want to speak to him but I also want to give it time and think about me & the baby. He was also emotionally abusive so I know that it wouldn't be a good idea but I just love him so much and hate him at the same time.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds incredibly stressful. As soon as you mentioned emotionally abusive you had me sold to keep things finished. You should chat about it to your midwives to get some support along the way :) Statistically women are at greater risk of DV during pregnancy - and there's already a history of it for you so look after you and your baby Best of luck

As much as you feel that you love him....part of that love will feel more intense because of the emotional abuse he put you through.
It is extremely hard to work out how you really feel about someone when you are being emotionally abused or even for a long time after the break up.

Unfortunately men don't stop emotionally abusing women when they get pregnant, it's likely to get even worse.

You need to come to terms with having this baby on your own, maybe he will be an 'ok' parent, but a relationship won't work.

Sorry that you're going through this

There’s no happy ending here, him becoming a father won’t change him and he will probably become more abusive because you are more vulnerable.

Your focus needs to be on your pregnancy. Do not contact him! Get into the habit of being on your own.