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Difficult ex

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Cakequeen1988 · 18/02/2022 18:59

Tonight when I dropped my 2 children off at their dads 1 cried as she didn’t want to go, I was comforting her whilst my older child (6) started shouting at his dad that he didn’t want to go to swimming lessons tonight.

Nothing was said at the time, I was busy calming youngest and their dad didn’t say anything to them.

Cue an hour after drop off when the ex text me saying both children are tired (yes because it’s the end of term!) and that my oldest shouldn’t speak the way he did.

Also stating the children told him they hadn’t had a bath/wash at mine last night.

He’s obviously been quizzing then and then contacting me.

I feel tJay as I was comforting one child he could have spoken to the other about how he was behaving. He was tired all it needed was a clam word and a discussion. Secondly the reason children weren’t bathed was because they do an activity that end slate and I am trying to get them into bed!

I don’t know what I’m asking really but it has narked me that he appears to be querying my parenting.

I feel children can go 1 night without a wash, that if he wasn’t happy about how his child was speak, to do something about it and stop messaging me!!!!

AIBU????

To not drip feed issues have started since he got a new girlfriend and stopped paying maintenance, which I am pursuing him for

OP posts:
PolkaSpace · 18/02/2022 19:01

I feel children can go 1 night without a wash, that if he wasn’t happy about how his child was speak, to do something about it and stop messaging me!!!! you're right.

JangolinaPitt · 18/02/2022 19:05

Washing excuse is rubbish! Little kids do not need extensive showering.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 18/02/2022 19:09

@JangolinaPitt

Washing excuse is rubbish! Little kids do not need extensive showering.
They also don't need a daily bath.

OP just ignore his messages. Or reply to the one specifically whining about the oldest's attitude and say "OK, what action have you taken?"

MadMadMadamMim · 18/02/2022 19:16

I'd just ignore it.

It doesn't require a response. It sounded like a statement.

Either that or I'd text back. Ok. And you should be paying maintenance. Why do you feel you have no responsibility to financially support your children, but get to have an opinion on how often they wash? I'm genuinely curious.

Cherrysoup · 18/02/2022 19:33

@MadMadMadamMim

I'd just ignore it.

It doesn't require a response. It sounded like a statement.

Either that or I'd text back. Ok. And you should be paying maintenance. Why do you feel you have no responsibility to financially support your children, but get to have an opinion on how often they wash? I'm genuinely curious.

Beautiful! Please send similar, @Cakequeen1988!

I’m amazed at his cheeky fuckery, failing to pay maintenance for his children and commenting on the OP’s parenting! Children certainly don’t need bathing every night.

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