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Birth certificate issues

34 replies

Hayley1801 · 18/02/2022 14:54

I recently had a baby, I broke up with my partner just after our baby was born as he is controlling and manipulative. Since then he has been a nightmare with seeing our baby and I have decided I don’t want his name on the birth certificate as I am pretty sure once his name is on there he is going to take our baby and refuse to give him back. I’m just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and has any advice or thinks I should do things differently?

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RedCandyApple · 18/02/2022 22:46

sofakingcool of course he won’t have PR if he is not on the birth certificate. There would be no proof he was even the father!

jelly79 · 18/02/2022 23:14

He can just go to court and be added to BC. The BC is your child's document not yours and it is right he is on it.

Absolutely give the child your surname though.

Comedycook · 19/02/2022 11:05

@jelly79

He can just go to court and be added to BC. The BC is your child's document not yours and it is right he is on it.

Absolutely give the child your surname though.

Yes he could go to court but a lot of men wouldn't bother.

The birth certificate isn't simply a momento to be treasured...it has legal implications and if a man is controlling, you need to think very carefully about whether you willingly put him on there.

RedCandyApple · 19/02/2022 11:10

If he is controlling then he likely will go to court to be put on, some men won’t bother but I’ve known ones to do it. Doesn’t mean op should put him on but it’s something she should be aware of.

PonyPatter44 · 19/02/2022 11:21

Congratulations on your lovely new baby, OP .

I think leaving him off the BC is the best thing at this stage. However, are you safe? Is he likely to get aggressive or physically violent? Please make sure you keep yourself and your baby safe at this point. Best wishes to you.

Oldraver · 19/02/2022 12:42

CSMA take the view of perceived parentage. So you name the father and they believe you. It is up to the 'father' to challenge this and ask for a DNA test.

If the test proves positive they have to pay for it

Natty13 · 19/02/2022 14:17

@Oldraver

CSMA take the view of perceived parentage. So you name the father and they believe you. It is up to the 'father' to challenge this and ask for a DNA test.

If the test proves positive they have to pay for it

Exactly, they go by the birth cert. If he's not on the birth cert he can deny parentage and a DNA test will be done to prove him wrong and make him pay. But then he will have easier way to petition for rights to custody time.

RedCandyApple · 19/02/2022 15:10

Depends if he denies it though?, my ex is not on my child bc but he has never denied being her father. So he never challenged cm.

LittleOwl153 · 19/02/2022 15:18

I would register the birth alone. That way he cannot be on the certificate initially.

Then I would seek a child arrangement order - which will yes give him some rights - but also ensure that there are the powers to retrieve the child if need be (make sure there is a habitually resident note and a penal order included).

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